Connell Barrett

Different women, most women on some level, are trying to gauge your, for lack of a better term, your integrity.

Not integrity as a man, but your strength.

your solidity, your value, your strength as a man.

And so there's a term in the world of dating gurus, you may or may not know this term, it's called shit test.

A lot of women give guys quote shit tests.

That's not a bad thing.

It's actually something women have to do.

The other term I learned back in the day was congruence tests, meaning she wants to find out if you are congruent

And as confident and cool in reality as you are projecting that those two things are aligned and congruent.

Let's call them shit tests.

A shit test is just a woman's way of finding out, okay, is this guy man enough for me?

Is he man enough for me?

And so you want to be aware that shit test might happen with someone from some women and don't think of it as a bad thing.

Think of it as an opportunity because you pass the test.

Then she's going to become more into you.

Here's an example of a shit test.

It can be small, a shit, a shit test.

I, my, my future, my Ben first date, future girlfriend, Lorraine, he had a first date and we were talking about Will Ferrell movies and, uh, we were talking about SNL and she said, so what do you think about Will Ferrell?

Do you think he's really overrated?

It's like she was trying to lead me down that path to see if I would say that.