7 Make-or-Break Dating Moments to Either Win Her Interest… Or Lose It
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What is the first make-or-break dating moment?
To approach or not to approach? That is the question. Shakespeare should have written about dating.
Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host and dating coach, Connell Barrett, helping you attract incredible women and getting a great partner, a great girlfriend, and doing it with authenticity. No sketchy, weird pickup artist moves needed. I'm so excited today.
When should you ask her out after the first approach?
I have a really fun episode. If you hear jingling in the background, by the way, I am a new cat dad. I have these two little orange tabbies who are literally running around my apartment, my studio slash apartment, playing with cat toys. So if you hear a little bell going off, you're hearing my two little orange boys. Today's episode, I want to talk about make or break moments, moments of truth, make or break moments that determine whether or not you and that woman end up as a couple.
What makes her swipe right on dating apps?
or at least end up having some kind of romantic connection, a win-win where you're both into each other. You date for a while, you hook up, you fall in love. There are make or break moments that happen early in the dating and courtship process that determine your success. They're subtle. Often they're very subtle.
How can you escape the friend zone on a first date?
Sometimes they're literally invisible. And I just want you to be aware of them. Here are seven of the most common make or break moments. I'm going to run you through each one. We've got approaching, we've got online dating, we've got flirting, and how to handle yourself on a date. Let me start with a story though.
What is the secret to effective pre-date texting?
I want to talk about the first make or break moment, which is the moment you decide you either will or won't approach that woman. I remember Many years ago, I'm in a Starbucks on Park Avenue, 29th Street, New York City, on a Sunday afternoon.
How do you pass her tests during dating?
I had never approached a woman before, but that day I saw this really pretty brunette sitting by herself. She's on her phone. I remember she looked like Katie Holmes, who was my crush at the time. She was my late 2000s crush.
What texting move can prevent getting ghosted?
And... I walked over to her seat, her table, and I wanted to approach her, but I didn't. I literally just walked around her table a couple times trying to think of the right thing to say, not coming up with anything good enough. And I went and sat down. thinking, okay, let me try again. I was worried about other people seeing me and wondering how bad it might feel if I bothered her and creeped her out. And I was also just worried that I would say the wrong thing and she wouldn't want to talk to me and that would make me feel shitty. So I sit back down, I'm trying to think of something better to say. And five or 10 minutes later, she walks up, leaves. And I remember thinking, gosh, if I could have only gone and approached her, I might be on a date with her tomorrow.
How can you maintain momentum between dates?
I might have her in my life, but I don't now. She's going off to meet some other guy, probably, and it won't be me. So these are high stakes moments. These are make or break moments that determine whether or not you find love. That's why I'm going into these. They're important. So make or break moment number one is deciding to approach or not to approach. To approach or not to approach. That is the question. Shakespeare should have written about dating. And there are probably hundreds of times a year, dozens of times a month when you see a woman you would love to talk to, but you don't do it. And that's the make or break moment. So here's a quick story of me. of me doing the right thing. Because I shared that failure of mine at Starbucks.
I want to share a success. Fast forward a few years, I've got a lot of approaches under my belt. I'm not yet a dating coach, but I'm getting pretty good at this. And I saw a woman out in a park here in New York City. And I actually had just... wanted to but failed to approach a different woman. And I was so mad at myself. I said, oh, Connell, damn it. You are going to approach the next woman. most attractive, the next cute girl you see. And I see walking across the street in the shadow of the Flatiron building here in New York City, I see this cute, curvy woman.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is the first make-or-break dating moment?
0:00–0:29
2
When should you ask her out after the first approach?
0:29–1:01
3
What makes her swipe right on dating apps?
1:01–1:24
4
How can you escape the friend zone on a first date?
1:24–1:45
5
What is the secret to effective pre-date texting?
1:45–2:05
6
How do you pass her tests during dating?
2:05–2:23
7
What texting move can prevent getting ghosted?
2:23–3:18
8
How can you maintain momentum between dates?
3:18–37:29
Speakers
2 identifiedMore from How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
8 Flirty Things to Say (and Not to Say) When You Freeze Up Around Women
The 10 Most Surprisingly Sexy Things to Say on a First Date
The 7 Lies that Keep You From Approaching—and 7 Tips to Confidently Talk to Women Anywhere
The 10 Texting Commandments: How to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting Dates
21 Flirty Ways to Make Her Feel Authentic Attraction (How to Escape the Friend Zone, Part 2)
The Date Seemed Great… So Why Did You End Up in the Friend Zone? (Part 1)