Craig Groeschel

You drill for oil, you dig for gold, and so with people you gotta do the same thing, you gotta dig for wisdom. And so when you're doing this, you wanna listen really carefully, you wanna listen to what you hear, You also want to listen for what you don't hear. Super important. You want to listen to what they say. You also want to listen to what they don't say.

You want to watch for what you see, and you also want to watch for what you don't see. And this is important because sometimes what you don't hear, what they don't say, and what you don't see is equally or more important than what you do hear, what they do say, and what you do see. I'll give you some examples. We have 45 different live church locations.

You want to watch for what you see, and you also want to watch for what you don't see. And this is important because sometimes what you don't hear, what they don't say, and what you don't see is equally or more important than what you do hear, what they do say, and what you do see. I'll give you some examples. We have 45 different live church locations.

You want to watch for what you see, and you also want to watch for what you don't see. And this is important because sometimes what you don't hear, what they don't say, and what you don't see is equally or more important than what you do hear, what they do say, and what you do see. I'll give you some examples. We have 45 different live church locations.

And so on Sundays, often I'll visit a campus and just meet people in the lobby. That's all we do. We just talk to people who are serving and attending. And I'll always say something like, hey, tell me your spiritual story. Tell me how you became a part of the church. And then I'll listen for what I hear and what I don't hear. And I listen for language.

And so on Sundays, often I'll visit a campus and just meet people in the lobby. That's all we do. We just talk to people who are serving and attending. And I'll always say something like, hey, tell me your spiritual story. Tell me how you became a part of the church. And then I'll listen for what I hear and what I don't hear. And I listen for language.

And so on Sundays, often I'll visit a campus and just meet people in the lobby. That's all we do. We just talk to people who are serving and attending. And I'll always say something like, hey, tell me your spiritual story. Tell me how you became a part of the church. And then I'll listen for what I hear and what I don't hear. And I listen for language.

Sometimes people will say like, oh, I love your church. And when I hear that, that's not exactly what I want to hear. Your is a distancing word. What I want to hear is, oh, I love our church. And that sounds like I'm being nitpicky, and I am. But the difference between someone who loves my church or someone who loves our church is massive in telling me just how bought in they are to the mission.

Sometimes people will say like, oh, I love your church. And when I hear that, that's not exactly what I want to hear. Your is a distancing word. What I want to hear is, oh, I love our church. And that sounds like I'm being nitpicky, and I am. But the difference between someone who loves my church or someone who loves our church is massive in telling me just how bought in they are to the mission.

Sometimes people will say like, oh, I love your church. And when I hear that, that's not exactly what I want to hear. Your is a distancing word. What I want to hear is, oh, I love our church. And that sounds like I'm being nitpicky, and I am. But the difference between someone who loves my church or someone who loves our church is massive in telling me just how bought in they are to the mission.

Sometimes I'll visit with maybe 200 people, and I'll hear a lot about the local campus pastor. You know, oh, my pastor baptized me and helped me find a life group, and the pastor did my marriage, and oh, he changed my life, whatever. Other times, like I can literally go all Sunday morning, talk to a couple hundred people, and no one mentions the campus pastor.

Sometimes I'll visit with maybe 200 people, and I'll hear a lot about the local campus pastor. You know, oh, my pastor baptized me and helped me find a life group, and the pastor did my marriage, and oh, he changed my life, whatever. Other times, like I can literally go all Sunday morning, talk to a couple hundred people, and no one mentions the campus pastor.

Sometimes I'll visit with maybe 200 people, and I'll hear a lot about the local campus pastor. You know, oh, my pastor baptized me and helped me find a life group, and the pastor did my marriage, and oh, he changed my life, whatever. Other times, like I can literally go all Sunday morning, talk to a couple hundred people, and no one mentions the campus pastor.

And that doesn't happen often, but when it does, it's not a good sign. So we're looking for what we hear. Also, we're watching for what we don't hear. And when you're in a conversation, like trust your instincts. Because so often you're going to be in a conversation and you're going to think, I sense there's something more. I sense there's something you're not telling me. And so just go with it.

And that doesn't happen often, but when it does, it's not a good sign. So we're looking for what we hear. Also, we're watching for what we don't hear. And when you're in a conversation, like trust your instincts. Because so often you're going to be in a conversation and you're going to think, I sense there's something more. I sense there's something you're not telling me. And so just go with it.

And that doesn't happen often, but when it does, it's not a good sign. So we're looking for what we hear. Also, we're watching for what we don't hear. And when you're in a conversation, like trust your instincts. Because so often you're going to be in a conversation and you're going to think, I sense there's something more. I sense there's something you're not telling me. And so just go with it.

If you feel that, say, hey, it feels like you want to tell me more. And then just be quiet and listen. And you would be surprised what all you can find out when you take the time not just to listen to the first thing, but to dig a little bit deeper. Now, I want to shift gears and tell you this. And this is, again, I know I keep saying it. These are game-changing principles, I promise you this.

If you feel that, say, hey, it feels like you want to tell me more. And then just be quiet and listen. And you would be surprised what all you can find out when you take the time not just to listen to the first thing, but to dig a little bit deeper. Now, I want to shift gears and tell you this. And this is, again, I know I keep saying it. These are game-changing principles, I promise you this.

If you feel that, say, hey, it feels like you want to tell me more. And then just be quiet and listen. And you would be surprised what all you can find out when you take the time not just to listen to the first thing, but to dig a little bit deeper. Now, I want to shift gears and tell you this. And this is, again, I know I keep saying it. These are game-changing principles, I promise you this.

Not only do you learn by asking questions, but you also learn by observing what kind of questions other people ask you. I'll give you several examples. You're doing a job interview. At the end of the interview, you're usually going to say, do you have any questions for us? Don't say that. That's a dumb question for you to ask. What I always say, I don't ever say, do you have any questions for us?