Cynthia Pong

Most of us grew up through some sort of school system where there's a lot of structure and you have to do things on a certain timeline within this container.

turn things in, someone else is grading, like there's that entire dynamic.

And so it becomes really ingrained.

Cynthia says accountability buddies can also help because they create defaults in our lives.

We've got a thousand reasons why we shouldn't do the thing.

But if it's like a standing situation and you just get into that routine, it will just become reflexive.

You don't make room for that risk that you're going to fall off the wagon.

I would look more for character traits of people who have a certain level of discipline around these things and also are not afraid to be like, hey, Marielle, we said we would do this.

I know that you don't want to, but I'm going to be here at this time.

So please come.

Then it's great to explain that to the other person so that they can also be like, yes, I can do that.

Or to be honest and be like, listen, I truthfully don't know if I'm going to be able to provide that for you.

Now you might be thinking, where am I going to find these people?

So then change the time of the Zoom, you know, or change it to not a Zoom and it's texting.

Like you can try any sort of thing like that to sort of adjust and you don't need to throw the whole thing out.