Dan Harris

Say more about that.

What does it mean to practice energy hygiene?

Oh, okay.

So this is like... It's related.

Yes, it's related, but it's not self-protective.

It's more like community service.

One of your other recommendations along those lines is to the extent that we can control our own calendars, and we all have varying degrees of agency on this score, but if we can control our own calendars to schedule 45-minute meetings instead of 60-minute meetings as a way to have some time to erase the whiteboard or to recover from somebody with whom we were overly enmeshed.

I like that.

One other thing you talk about when it comes to preventing emotional fusion, protecting ourselves from other people's bad vibes, is to break physical sync, like to somehow not be so physically enmeshed with the other person.

What does that mean?

Does that mean just like leaving the room?

I'm not looking at other people in the movies.

Yeah, that's a really empowering thing.

One other piece of advice that you have in terms of gauging whether you really sync with somebody and whether this is somebody you want to keep in your life, and I think this is probably particularly useful when it comes to dating, is to pay attention to how you feel after you're with the person.

To do a little audit after you've parted ways, like,

you know, a little interception after the encounter.

Can you say a little bit more about that?

Yeah.

And there's all this data about even just having a phone on the table can fuck things up in this regard.

I guess a question, this is a little bit random, that's popping into my head.