Dan Savage

Suck a million dicks. binge a million shows. Exactly. But the takeaway from this conversation is Jeff Gunther endorses sucking a million dicks if that's what you need to do to get through the next four years.

Suck a million dicks. binge a million shows. Exactly. But the takeaway from this conversation is Jeff Gunther endorses sucking a million dicks if that's what you need to do to get through the next four years.

Jeff Gunther, LPC Therapy Jeff on TikTok and Instagram. He hosts the Big Dating Energy podcast and Problem Solved. His new book, Big Dating Energy, out now. Jeff, thank you so much for coming back on the show. And I will send you my address so you can bill me for this appearance and this session. That sounds good. Yeah. All right. Thanks for having me.

Jeff Gunther, LPC Therapy Jeff on TikTok and Instagram. He hosts the Big Dating Energy podcast and Problem Solved. His new book, Big Dating Energy, out now. Jeff, thank you so much for coming back on the show. And I will send you my address so you can bill me for this appearance and this session. That sounds good. Yeah. All right. Thanks for having me.

That was just a little taste of my conversation with Therapy Jeff. He continued to psychoanalyze me and then took a couple of sex questions with me. That's on the Magnum version of the show, which you can subscribe to or send as a gift at savage.love.

That was just a little taste of my conversation with Therapy Jeff. He continued to psychoanalyze me and then took a couple of sex questions with me. That's on the Magnum version of the show, which you can subscribe to or send as a gift at savage.love.

I was crying all week after listening to your call because I was just so bored. I felt so violated by how bored I was by this question. I'm not saying that to shame you. I'm just joking. Kind of. Look, I think it's obvious what your friend is doing here, what's going on here.

I was crying all week after listening to your call because I was just so bored. I felt so violated by how bored I was by this question. I'm not saying that to shame you. I'm just joking. Kind of. Look, I think it's obvious what your friend is doing here, what's going on here.

You got married, you got a dog, you have a husband, you have a busy young adult life, and you don't have as much time for your friend as you did 20 years ago when you guys were sophomores in high school and juniors in high school. And that's not anything you've done wrong. That's just...

You got married, you got a dog, you have a husband, you have a busy young adult life, and you don't have as much time for your friend as you did 20 years ago when you guys were sophomores in high school and juniors in high school. And that's not anything you've done wrong. That's just...

Adult life and what your friend is doing by having all these fucking meltdowns is trying to control you, demand your attention, demand that you dance attendance on her precious feelings and keep you on the back foot at all times and keep you apologizing to her and having to make it up to her. And it's a kind of.

Adult life and what your friend is doing by having all these fucking meltdowns is trying to control you, demand your attention, demand that you dance attendance on her precious feelings and keep you on the back foot at all times and keep you apologizing to her and having to make it up to her. And it's a kind of.

I don't want to say negative attention-seeking behavior, but it's exhausting what your friend is doing. It was exhausting to listen to you recount what your friend is doing.

I don't want to say negative attention-seeking behavior, but it's exhausting what your friend is doing. It was exhausting to listen to you recount what your friend is doing.

And so rather than have a conversation about this film festival and the link that you failed to open, that terrible, terrible crime, I think you say to your friend, maybe in a letter, if she's just going to burst out crying every time you get on the fucking phone, you identify... every single time that you can recall in the last year or two, this happening and ask her what this is about.

And so rather than have a conversation about this film festival and the link that you failed to open, that terrible, terrible crime, I think you say to your friend, maybe in a letter, if she's just going to burst out crying every time you get on the fucking phone, you identify... every single time that you can recall in the last year or two, this happening and ask her what this is about.

Cause it's not about the film festival. It's about something else. And maybe your friend will have the ability to admit what's going on or getting that letter from you will help her see what's going on, which is just, she wants more time and attention and consideration from you. then you're able to give her at this moment in your lives for understandable reasons.

Cause it's not about the film festival. It's about something else. And maybe your friend will have the ability to admit what's going on or getting that letter from you will help her see what's going on, which is just, she wants more time and attention and consideration from you. then you're able to give her at this moment in your lives for understandable reasons.

Also, if you're really concerned about her, if you have mutual friends, you might want to reach out to a couple of them and see if she's pulling this same shit with them. Is she lonely? Is she sad? Nobody, I pull a film festival together. Nobody does that on their own. Your friend must have a social network. She must have other people in her life. Is she pulling this shit on them or is it just you?

Also, if you're really concerned about her, if you have mutual friends, you might want to reach out to a couple of them and see if she's pulling this same shit with them. Is she lonely? Is she sad? Nobody, I pull a film festival together. Nobody does that on their own. Your friend must have a social network. She must have other people in her life. Is she pulling this shit on them or is it just you?