Dan Savage

When I met Terry and we had that one night stand, we talked in the bar and then we made out in the bathroom and then we went up.

There was this progression and a lot of talking over the course of the night before he wound up back in my apartment where the next morning, I famously had to, while he was in the shower, get his wallet out of his pants and get his driver's license out of his wallet because I couldn't remember his name.

There was this progression and a lot of talking over the course of the night before he wound up back in my apartment where the next morning, I famously had to, while he was in the shower, get his wallet out of his pants and get his driver's license out of his wallet because I couldn't remember his name.

Anyway, that's different for me than like laying on some table in a dark room with some stranger putting their hands on me. And maybe there's a contradiction there, but we are all of us a mass of contradictions. We are allowed to have tiny little harmless hypocrisies. And you're trying to sell me on massage by saying it's a safe place with a lot of boundaries. I totally get it.

Anyway, that's different for me than like laying on some table in a dark room with some stranger putting their hands on me. And maybe there's a contradiction there, but we are all of us a mass of contradictions. We are allowed to have tiny little harmless hypocrisies. And you're trying to sell me on massage by saying it's a safe place with a lot of boundaries. I totally get it.

I've gotten a few massages. I wasn't No one cut my kidney out of my body during a massage. I wasn't violated in any way. But you say the whole point is to relax. All you have to do to enjoy that massage is relax. And there's the rub. I can't relax in that way. situation.

I've gotten a few massages. I wasn't No one cut my kidney out of my body during a massage. I wasn't violated in any way. But you say the whole point is to relax. All you have to do to enjoy that massage is relax. And there's the rub. I can't relax in that way. situation.

I can't relax laying on a table in front of a stranger with a towel covering my dick who is then going to run their hands all over my body. I can't relax. I can't relax. I have gotten a massage once or twice at Terry's urging because he thinks I'm too tense. He enjoys massages. And I left about a thousand times tenser than I arrived. So I don't see the point. I tipped really well.

I can't relax laying on a table in front of a stranger with a towel covering my dick who is then going to run their hands all over my body. I can't relax. I can't relax. I have gotten a massage once or twice at Terry's urging because he thinks I'm too tense. He enjoys massages. And I left about a thousand times tenser than I arrived. So I don't see the point. I tipped really well.

It wasn't the fault of the masseuse in any way. But I didn't see the point of putting myself through that again. We are allowed to have preferences and dislikes and they don't all have to neatly align with other preferences and dislikes.

It wasn't the fault of the masseuse in any way. But I didn't see the point of putting myself through that again. We are allowed to have preferences and dislikes and they don't all have to neatly align with other preferences and dislikes.

So yeah, I was 30 and I met this 23-year-old in a bar and I let him play jungle gym on me all night long after talking to him in that bar and feeling like I could date this guy. And you know what? Turned out to be right. My hunch was correct. I'm really good at figuring those things out on the fly. but some masseuse. Yeah, no, no.

So yeah, I was 30 and I met this 23-year-old in a bar and I let him play jungle gym on me all night long after talking to him in that bar and feeling like I could date this guy. And you know what? Turned out to be right. My hunch was correct. I'm really good at figuring those things out on the fly. but some masseuse. Yeah, no, no.

I'm fine with this being an irresolvable contradiction in my psyche, in my character, even a hypocrisy of mine. And you're going to let me have it because there's no prying it out of me. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep, the makers of the mattress in our bedroom, in our guest room, and my boyfriend's bedroom too. The Helix mattress, perfect for poly people, perfect for...

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