Dan Savage

Can you get that from someone you've been married to for 30 years?

Esther, thank you so much for coming, for demeaning yourself by coming on my dumb podcast. I really appreciate it.

Esther, thank you so much for coming, for demeaning yourself by coming on my dumb podcast. I really appreciate it.

I loved chatting with Esther Perel and we went on for a lot longer on the Magnum version of the show. She took a call with me. We talked about when relationships become police states, the difference between sex and eroticism and so much more. Subscribe to the Magnum for one month and you can listen to my entire interview. with Esther Perel.

I loved chatting with Esther Perel and we went on for a lot longer on the Magnum version of the show. She took a call with me. We talked about when relationships become police states, the difference between sex and eroticism and so much more. Subscribe to the Magnum for one month and you can listen to my entire interview. with Esther Perel.

You can also binge as many magnums as we've ever made, including, of course, this one with Esther, for just eight bucks. And if you like it, you can keep subscribing or upgrade to a year-long subscription for cheaper at savage.love. Check out all Esther Perel has to offer, including her courses on Desire, her fabulous podcast, and her books at estherperel.com.

You can also binge as many magnums as we've ever made, including, of course, this one with Esther, for just eight bucks. And if you like it, you can keep subscribing or upgrade to a year-long subscription for cheaper at savage.love. Check out all Esther Perel has to offer, including her courses on Desire, her fabulous podcast, and her books at estherperel.com.

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No gay man, off-grinder particularly, goes into a first-time same-sex experience for a bicarious guy with an expectation that there's going to be a ring on his finger a week later. Most gay men who would be up for that, and they're your situation. There's not just gay guys out there who would be chill about that.

No gay man, off-grinder particularly, goes into a first-time same-sex experience for a bicarious guy with an expectation that there's going to be a ring on his finger a week later. Most gay men who would be up for that, and they're your situation. There's not just gay guys out there who would be chill about that.

There are gay guys out there who would be psyched to be your first dude, the first dick in your mouth, the first dick in your ass, or the first ass you buried your dick in. There are gay men who... live for that.

There are gay guys out there who would be psyched to be your first dude, the first dick in your mouth, the first dick in your ass, or the first ass you buried your dick in. There are gay men who... live for that.

And so you need to disinhibit around your marketability, your desirability, and be as honest with anybody that you might wanna hook up with as you were with that one guy who reacted so positively. And yeah, you're probably gonna have to do this on Grindr. I have a friend who went to a big party this weekend where he observed that nobody picked anybody up at the party

And so you need to disinhibit around your marketability, your desirability, and be as honest with anybody that you might wanna hook up with as you were with that one guy who reacted so positively. And yeah, you're probably gonna have to do this on Grindr. I have a friend who went to a big party this weekend where he observed that nobody picked anybody up at the party

But the next morning he talked to a bunch of his friends who all went home and then got on Grindr where they recognized people from the party that then they hooked up with later. Yeah, that is kind of how the dick is had for a lot of younger people these days. You don't walk up to people in person and talk to them.