Dan Savage

Well, I was familiar with Mike White initially because of who his father was. This is Dan Savage again.

Well, I was familiar with Mike White initially because of who his father was. This is Dan Savage again.

He was a ghostwriter for Jerry Falwell Sr. And I read Jerry Falwell Sr. 's books. I'm a little bit, you know, I have Anita Bryant's books. There's some part of me that wants to crawl into their twisted little brains and put my feet up and stay a while. And there's kind of a lesson in Mel White's life.

He was a ghostwriter for Jerry Falwell Sr. And I read Jerry Falwell Sr. 's books. I'm a little bit, you know, I have Anita Bryant's books. There's some part of me that wants to crawl into their twisted little brains and put my feet up and stay a while. And there's kind of a lesson in Mel White's life.

The way gay people lived when we were closeted, you couldn't risk attracting too much attention or scrutiny to yourself. So you lived through other people. You lived through straight people, which as a ghostwriter is what Mel White did. He lived through people like Jerry Falwell and hid behind them. And what better closet door than Jerry fucking Falwell Sr.

The way gay people lived when we were closeted, you couldn't risk attracting too much attention or scrutiny to yourself. So you lived through other people. You lived through straight people, which as a ghostwriter is what Mel White did. He lived through people like Jerry Falwell and hid behind them. And what better closet door than Jerry fucking Falwell Sr.

For a gay man who doesn't want to be scrutinized, doesn't want to be discovered. And the lesson in Mike White's career is once gay people are freed from having to hide and sublimate, look at what gay people can create. Look at what gay people can do when they welcome scrutiny, criticism, attention in the way Mike has welcomed it.

For a gay man who doesn't want to be scrutinized, doesn't want to be discovered. And the lesson in Mike White's career is once gay people are freed from having to hide and sublimate, look at what gay people can create. Look at what gay people can do when they welcome scrutiny, criticism, attention in the way Mike has welcomed it.

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Welcome to We Can Do Hard Things, and today we have one of our favorite shows for you, which is when we avoid our own problems by trying to solve yours. Yay! This is my comfort zone. What a relief. I know, right? Isn't this great? Okay, so let's just jump in. Let's just hear from these loves. Let's start with Jessi.

Welcome to We Can Do Hard Things, and today we have one of our favorite shows for you, which is when we avoid our own problems by trying to solve yours. Yay! This is my comfort zone. What a relief. I know, right? Isn't this great? Okay, so let's just jump in. Let's just hear from these loves. Let's start with Jessi.

Yes. I think 100% all of that is so clarifying. I feel confused when someone says, Well, my intent isn't that. That works for me the first time. What I get confused about is if Jesse's partner is making a joke about a particular thing. Let's just use food because you're using that example, but insert whatever your sensitivities are.

Yes. I think 100% all of that is so clarifying. I feel confused when someone says, Well, my intent isn't that. That works for me the first time. What I get confused about is if Jesse's partner is making a joke about a particular thing. Let's just use food because you're using that example, but insert whatever your sensitivities are.

And Jesse explains to her husband or her partner that I don't think that's funny. That's hurtful to me. for this reason. And then it continues. To me, the intent argument doesn't work anymore.

And Jesse explains to her husband or her partner that I don't think that's funny. That's hurtful to me. for this reason. And then it continues. To me, the intent argument doesn't work anymore.