Dan Savage
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Can we stop there? Really? You think we have a dynamic of landing jokes and saying things? That is not at all how I would characterize it.
Can we stop there? Really? You think we have a dynamic of landing jokes and saying things? That is not at all how I would characterize it.
Because I don't actually like teasing. I don't like it. But there's a playfulness to light loving teasing that I don't want to eliminate completely because it feels like part of the healthy-ish carbonation of a relationship. So I don't want to squash it completely. But I'll say specifically, for example,
Because I don't actually like teasing. I don't like it. But there's a playfulness to light loving teasing that I don't want to eliminate completely because it feels like part of the healthy-ish carbonation of a relationship. So I don't want to squash it completely. But I'll say specifically, for example,
90% of the time, jokes about teasing about, you know, me leaving things, getting lost or leaving or whatever, the airhead-y thing of situational.
90% of the time, jokes about teasing about, you know, me leaving things, getting lost or leaving or whatever, the airhead-y thing of situational.
Forgetting things, whatever. It's okay and light. And then 10% of the time, Abby will just say something that she could have said last Tuesday the same way. And I'm like, enough. Yeah. Right now, stop. That does not feel loving. And so we can't figure out if it means that the 90% isn't okay either.
Forgetting things, whatever. It's okay and light. And then 10% of the time, Abby will just say something that she could have said last Tuesday the same way. And I'm like, enough. Yeah. Right now, stop. That does not feel loving. And so we can't figure out if it means that the 90% isn't okay either.
It reminds me of, you know how the kiddos these days, like, the millennials and the Gen Zers, whenever they text something, they will be like, this is an example. Mom, I'm scared. LOL. Can you pick up my backpack? LOL. It's like, if anything's too sincere, there has to be an LOL after it. I don't exactly understand, but it's just a disclaimer of maybe this is too vulnerable.
It reminds me of, you know how the kiddos these days, like, the millennials and the Gen Zers, whenever they text something, they will be like, this is an example. Mom, I'm scared. LOL. Can you pick up my backpack? LOL. It's like, if anything's too sincere, there has to be an LOL after it. I don't exactly understand, but it's just a disclaimer of maybe this is too vulnerable.
Maybe I don't mean this. It's not funny. Nothing they said was funny. Our producer just texted, I do this, LOL. Like, I don't understand it. Okay, maybe it's their equivalent of Gen X is how we put smiley faces and exclamation points after things.
Maybe I don't mean this. It's not funny. Nothing they said was funny. Our producer just texted, I do this, LOL. Like, I don't understand it. Okay, maybe it's their equivalent of Gen X is how we put smiley faces and exclamation points after things.
It's like their disclaimer of sincerity. And I do think that I was just joking can be a disclaimer of sincerity. Like people who don't know how to communicate things like actually, It makes my life harder that you lose things every day. I actually would prefer not to follow you around the house wondering if your coffee is in the dryer. It was one time, just to be clear.
It's like their disclaimer of sincerity. And I do think that I was just joking can be a disclaimer of sincerity. Like people who don't know how to communicate things like actually, It makes my life harder that you lose things every day. I actually would prefer not to follow you around the house wondering if your coffee is in the dryer. It was one time, just to be clear.
I don't think we need to get specific.
I don't think we need to get specific.
How? How did my coffee mug with coffee in it end up in the clothes dryer? We will never know. I can't tell you because I don't know if we're in a 10% area. It's part of my charm. I need a t-shirt that says it's part of my charm. Anyway, the point being, maybe Jesse's partner is trying to communicate something, but just constantly putting LOL after it. Because here's the thing.
How? How did my coffee mug with coffee in it end up in the clothes dryer? We will never know. I can't tell you because I don't know if we're in a 10% area. It's part of my charm. I need a t-shirt that says it's part of my charm. Anyway, the point being, maybe Jesse's partner is trying to communicate something, but just constantly putting LOL after it. Because here's the thing.