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Or is this something that you can retcon, that you can retroactively give him permission to do? Are you okay with being deceived like this? Is that what you've learned about yourself, having been deceived like this? You put down a marker, you set a boundary, you're not enforcing it. The dick must be amazing. Maybe that's why you're not enforcing it.

Or is this something that you can retcon, that you can retroactively give him permission to do? Are you okay with being deceived like this? Is that what you've learned about yourself, having been deceived like this? You put down a marker, you set a boundary, you're not enforcing it. The dick must be amazing. Maybe that's why you're not enforcing it.

Or maybe you're not enforcing it because you don't want to, because you want to move that boundary, move that goalpost for your own reasons. I don't know. I don't know. But if what you need is permission to break up with this guy for fucking around, lying to you and hurting your feelings. Yeah, absolutely. You have permission. to break up with this guy for those reasons.

Or maybe you're not enforcing it because you don't want to, because you want to move that boundary, move that goalpost for your own reasons. I don't know. I don't know. But if what you need is permission to break up with this guy for fucking around, lying to you and hurting your feelings. Yeah, absolutely. You have permission. to break up with this guy for those reasons.

And if for your own reasons you still want to go on this vacation, you're already on this vacation, if for your own reasons you still want to go on this vacation, have one last raw, jump on his dick one or two more times, and then break the fuck up with him when you get home, that's kind of a lie.

And if for your own reasons you still want to go on this vacation, you're already on this vacation, if for your own reasons you still want to go on this vacation, have one last raw, jump on his dick one or two more times, and then break the fuck up with him when you get home, that's kind of a lie.

You're misrepresenting your interests or intentions by going on this vacation, or you have already misrepresented your interests and long-term intentions by going on this vacation. But considering that he was a shitheel first, I wouldn't blame you. I wouldn't blame you at all. So enjoy the vacation. Enjoy the dick. Dump the motherfucker. I'm already winning it back.

You're misrepresenting your interests or intentions by going on this vacation, or you have already misrepresented your interests and long-term intentions by going on this vacation. But considering that he was a shitheel first, I wouldn't blame you. I wouldn't blame you at all. So enjoy the vacation. Enjoy the dick. Dump the motherfucker. I'm already winning it back.

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If you've been wondering about Field because you've heard so much about Field on this show from callers, not just from hosts, I, Dan Savage, recommend that you finally give Field a try yourself.