Dan Savage

Maybe exploring tantra is the problem. What little I know about tantric sex techniques, all about delaying orgasms, decentering orgasms, or sublimating genital orgasms and having orgasms in your calves or whatever. So maybe it's tantra. What I'm trying to suggest here by,

Maybe exploring tantra is the problem. What little I know about tantric sex techniques, all about delaying orgasms, decentering orgasms, or sublimating genital orgasms and having orgasms in your calves or whatever. So maybe it's tantra. What I'm trying to suggest here by,

ragging on Tantra a little bit, love you all you Tantra practitioners, just joking, is that you may be experiencing something that's just a coincidence and you're reading into it causation. You are careening into your mid-40s and it is true that you will become perhaps, as many men do, a little less sensitive as you age and orgasms may be a

ragging on Tantra a little bit, love you all you Tantra practitioners, just joking, is that you may be experiencing something that's just a coincidence and you're reading into it causation. You are careening into your mid-40s and it is true that you will become perhaps, as many men do, a little less sensitive as you age and orgasms may be a

attributing meaning or causation to the fact that the last few orgasms, last few relationships you were in, we had a hard time achieving orgasm to the fact that these women had given birth and maybe there was less friction or maybe it's you, maybe it's your dick.

attributing meaning or causation to the fact that the last few orgasms, last few relationships you were in, we had a hard time achieving orgasm to the fact that these women had given birth and maybe there was less friction or maybe it's you, maybe it's your dick.

I'm really concerned though about the conversations you had with these women who walked away from these conversations feeling like their bodies had failed you rather than you doing what anybody should do in a Even if it's true that something about the other person's body isn't hitting your dick in just the right way, you don't have to tell them that.

I'm really concerned though about the conversations you had with these women who walked away from these conversations feeling like their bodies had failed you rather than you doing what anybody should do in a Even if it's true that something about the other person's body isn't hitting your dick in just the right way, you don't have to tell them that.

You just tell them that sometimes, you know, you have to use your own hand to finish. And... Just like you can say, just like a lot of women need to, you know, can't come during PIV alone, need direct intense clitoral stimulation, sometimes more intense than a finger or tongue can provide or the bank shot stimulation that PIV provides to many women. And I need to...

You just tell them that sometimes, you know, you have to use your own hand to finish. And... Just like you can say, just like a lot of women need to, you know, can't come during PIV alone, need direct intense clitoral stimulation, sometimes more intense than a finger or tongue can provide or the bank shot stimulation that PIV provides to many women. And I need to...

jacket to get myself there at the end. And it's not about you. I'm loving this. This is so hot, but I'm going to finish myself up. This is why I think all straight people should watch a ton of gay porn at some point in their lives, because all these straight people out there are like, oh, we're having PIV and she's not coming. I'm like, watch gay porn.

jacket to get myself there at the end. And it's not about you. I'm loving this. This is so hot, but I'm going to finish myself up. This is why I think all straight people should watch a ton of gay porn at some point in their lives, because all these straight people out there are like, oh, we're having PIV and she's not coming. I'm like, watch gay porn.

Well, you will see the bottom and the top come simultaneously because

Well, you will see the bottom and the top come simultaneously because

the bottom is stroking his dick and timing it with the top they're talking to each other about whether they're both close and getting close and they'll come together and you'll also see a ton of people who in gay porn where the guy pulls out near the end and jacks off and finishes and everybody's delighted because that's sex and good sex and it just might be like how their dicks work.

the bottom is stroking his dick and timing it with the top they're talking to each other about whether they're both close and getting close and they'll come together and you'll also see a ton of people who in gay porn where the guy pulls out near the end and jacks off and finishes and everybody's delighted because that's sex and good sex and it just might be like how their dicks work.

And this could just be how your dick works. And I think you need to err on the side of framing it that way. When you're with somebody where you're not getting there, you just need to say like, I need usually to get myself at least jacked off at some point, really enjoying it. I can fuck you. You know, you can use your vibrator. We can use our fingers. You can have as many orgasms as you want.

And this could just be how your dick works. And I think you need to err on the side of framing it that way. When you're with somebody where you're not getting there, you just need to say like, I need usually to get myself at least jacked off at some point, really enjoying it. I can fuck you. You know, you can use your vibrator. We can use our fingers. You can have as many orgasms as you want.

My dick is reliable. I'm not going to come too soon. But then in the end, I'm going to like have to give myself a few strokes. You can also do the orgasmic inevitability trick where you pull out And you stroke yourself to the point of orgasmic inevitability.

My dick is reliable. I'm not going to come too soon. But then in the end, I'm going to like have to give myself a few strokes. You can also do the orgasmic inevitability trick where you pull out And you stroke yourself to the point of orgasmic inevitability.