Dan Savage

Yeah, we're not reliable narrators of our own sexual interests. There's something about Greg and Tanya's relationship that... is recognizable to me as a gay man my age. I'm 60 years old.

Yeah, we're not reliable narrators of our own sexual interests. There's something about Greg and Tanya's relationship that... is recognizable to me as a gay man my age. I'm 60 years old.

And I watched a lot of people partner up during the AIDS epidemic with people they thought were about to die, as Greg was about to die in episode one, or with people when they thought they were about to die, as Greg was in episode one.

And I watched a lot of people partner up during the AIDS epidemic with people they thought were about to die, as Greg was about to die in episode one, or with people when they thought they were about to die, as Greg was in episode one.

And then along came protease inhibitors in 1996, and all these guys who thought they were gonna die or thought their partners were gonna die were suddenly gonna live. And it changed the calculus. around the relationships they were in, a lot of breakups. And what Greg had, you know, Tanya funded his treatment, some experimental treatment, saved his life.

And then along came protease inhibitors in 1996, and all these guys who thought they were gonna die or thought their partners were gonna die were suddenly gonna live. And it changed the calculus. around the relationships they were in, a lot of breakups. And what Greg had, you know, Tanya funded his treatment, some experimental treatment, saved his life.

In the flush of that, they married, and then Greg realized, oh, this is somebody I could stand for a year. This isn't somebody I can stand for decades. which is what a lot of guys who got off their deathbeds in 1996, they called it Lazarus syndrome in 1996, guys getting off their deathbeds, suddenly were like, oh, I loved this person when I thought I was on my way out.

In the flush of that, they married, and then Greg realized, oh, this is somebody I could stand for a year. This isn't somebody I can stand for decades. which is what a lot of guys who got off their deathbeds in 1996, they called it Lazarus syndrome in 1996, guys getting off their deathbeds, suddenly were like, oh, I loved this person when I thought I was on my way out.

And I could love this person for three months. I can't love this person for 30 more years. And that's where Greg found himself with Tanya, but there was half a billion dollars on that.

And I could love this person for three months. I can't love this person for 30 more years. And that's where Greg found himself with Tanya, but there was half a billion dollars on that.

There's that episode in season two where I think it's clear that Greg was involved in Tanya's murder, set it all up.

There's that episode in season two where I think it's clear that Greg was involved in Tanya's murder, set it all up.

Where he gives Tanya like the Italian day of her dreams, gets the Vespa, the crazy outfit. And you can see on him like... He feels conflicted about what he knows he's about to do and he wants Tanya to have one last great day before he ends her life through the mechanism of the evil gaze.

Where he gives Tanya like the Italian day of her dreams, gets the Vespa, the crazy outfit. And you can see on him like... He feels conflicted about what he knows he's about to do and he wants Tanya to have one last great day before he ends her life through the mechanism of the evil gaze.

Does he recognize that he can have a girlfriend who looks like Chloe, but he can't have that girl all to himself?

Does he recognize that he can have a girlfriend who looks like Chloe, but he can't have that girl all to himself?

Right. And hot wifing is sometimes a kink. Cuckolding is a kink. In hot wifing scenarios, it's the man sharing everything. the possession of his wife or girlfriend with another man. And that's different from cock-holding where he's being cheated on in a consensual way, but it's humiliating that his wife is having sex with somebody else.

Right. And hot wifing is sometimes a kink. Cuckolding is a kink. In hot wifing scenarios, it's the man sharing everything. the possession of his wife or girlfriend with another man. And that's different from cock-holding where he's being cheated on in a consensual way, but it's humiliating that his wife is having sex with somebody else.

And it's about him being disempowered in that way because he's being wronged. In a hot-waping scenario, which this is what could be going on with Greg, it's still about control and power because he would be giving.

And it's about him being disempowered in that way because he's being wronged. In a hot-waping scenario, which this is what could be going on with Greg, it's still about control and power because he would be giving.