Dan Savage

If hands are being used, I would say they are fingering if the other person has a clit or stroking if the other person is a penis halfer. All right. So when I masturbate, I jack myself off. But when I jack my boyfriend off, I'm only jacking him off, not masturbating him. Meaning follows usage. And a lot of people use masturbate the way I used it. But technically, no cute name is correct.

If hands are being used, I would say they are fingering if the other person has a clit or stroking if the other person is a penis halfer. All right. So when I masturbate, I jack myself off. But when I jack my boyfriend off, I'm only jacking him off, not masturbating him. Meaning follows usage. And a lot of people use masturbate the way I used it. But technically, no cute name is correct.

However, it does call into question the common understanding of the... Sexual activity referred to as mutual masturbation, which encompasses not just two people sitting side by side and masturbating themselves, not just keeping their hands to themselves, but masturbating their partners too. Says Thingamajig about the mom who called in about their queer teenager.

However, it does call into question the common understanding of the... Sexual activity referred to as mutual masturbation, which encompasses not just two people sitting side by side and masturbating themselves, not just keeping their hands to themselves, but masturbating their partners too. Says Thingamajig about the mom who called in about their queer teenager.

Parents who call in, how about be more specific about your kids' particulars? Dan did his best to cover the bases, but queer teenager is a big category. And what a gay 13-year-old needs, for example, is probably quite a bit different from what a non-binary 19-year-old might need. I agree, Finger Majig. Yes, I could use more particulars. Queer is a vast and broad category.

Parents who call in, how about be more specific about your kids' particulars? Dan did his best to cover the bases, but queer teenager is a big category. And what a gay 13-year-old needs, for example, is probably quite a bit different from what a non-binary 19-year-old might need. I agree, Finger Majig. Yes, I could use more particulars. Queer is a vast and broad category.

Also, could I put in a word for people to stop using the word kiddo? I don't know why it bothers me, but it does. See, also, doggo, hubs, the pod for podcast, and nipple. Never liked that word? Just go with tit. But yes, helpful to know the flavor of queer we're talking about when we're talking about queer kids or queer adults. Finally, it says kindness is key.

Also, could I put in a word for people to stop using the word kiddo? I don't know why it bothers me, but it does. See, also, doggo, hubs, the pod for podcast, and nipple. Never liked that word? Just go with tit. But yes, helpful to know the flavor of queer we're talking about when we're talking about queer kids or queer adults. Finally, it says kindness is key.

This is in reference to the caller who didn't find the romantic interest attractive because the romantic interest was too skinny. Something you said, Dan, got worded weird and it made it sound like the skinny gal would be to blame if she does have an eating disorder. But an eating disorder is not someone's fault. It is a medical condition. and psychological issue they can't control.

This is in reference to the caller who didn't find the romantic interest attractive because the romantic interest was too skinny. Something you said, Dan, got worded weird and it made it sound like the skinny gal would be to blame if she does have an eating disorder. But an eating disorder is not someone's fault. It is a medical condition. and psychological issue they can't control.

I'm sure you know that, Dan. Just be more careful how you phrase things. Thank you. Kindness is key. I am going to have just be more careful how you phrase things tattooed in reverse on my forehead so I can read it every morning before I record the Lovecast. Thank you for your comments. Thank you for your feedback. Thank you for holding me. What's that word people like to use and overuse?

I'm sure you know that, Dan. Just be more careful how you phrase things. Thank you. Kindness is key. I am going to have just be more careful how you phrase things tattooed in reverse on my forehead so I can read it every morning before I record the Lovecast. Thank you for your comments. Thank you for your feedback. Thank you for holding me. What's that word people like to use and overuse?

Oh, right. Accountable. And for more listener feedback, check out Struggle Session every Thursday at savage.love, where I respond at length, sometimes great length, to listener comments and reader comments. There's a lot more about Baby Girl in the last Struggle Session. If you're still interested in hearing more about that film, go check out last week's Struggle Session.

Oh, right. Accountable. And for more listener feedback, check out Struggle Session every Thursday at savage.love, where I respond at length, sometimes great length, to listener comments and reader comments. There's a lot more about Baby Girl in the last Struggle Session. If you're still interested in hearing more about that film, go check out last week's Struggle Session.

And now, everyone's favorite part of the show, mine included, the part where I shut my big gay mouth, and my listeners, who always phrase things perfectly, get the last word.

And now, everyone's favorite part of the show, mine included, the part where I shut my big gay mouth, and my listeners, who always phrase things perfectly, get the last word.

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