Dan Savage

I would, if your niece had called me, encourage her not to see her father or to see him less, to expose herself to this abusive treatment less. I'm not a huge fan of no contact. I'm a fan of minimizing exposure, but your only leverage over your family as an adult is your presence.

I would, if your niece had called me, encourage her not to see her father or to see him less, to expose herself to this abusive treatment less. I'm not a huge fan of no contact. I'm a fan of minimizing exposure, but your only leverage over your family as an adult is your presence.

And if every time your niece makes herself present with her father, she is abused by your father in this way, she should stop showing up. When somebody says, I'm going to beat you up in the schoolyard at two o'clock, meet me there. You don't have to meet them there to get beat up on the schoolyard. And that's kind of what her dad is doing.

And if every time your niece makes herself present with her father, she is abused by your father in this way, she should stop showing up. When somebody says, I'm going to beat you up in the schoolyard at two o'clock, meet me there. You don't have to meet them there to get beat up on the schoolyard. And that's kind of what her dad is doing.

And you should tell your dad it's contemptible and he needs to stop or he's going to destroy his relationship with his daughter, with his child. Now, when I hear about families doing this, it just reminds me of something that we gay people used to face a lot decades ago. And we used to talk about all the time, which was family members inviting, not bring your boyfriend to Christmas.

And you should tell your dad it's contemptible and he needs to stop or he's going to destroy his relationship with his daughter, with his child. Now, when I hear about families doing this, it just reminds me of something that we gay people used to face a lot decades ago. And we used to talk about all the time, which was family members inviting, not bring your boyfriend to Christmas.

We're in husbands yet. A lot of us were husbands emotionally, but we weren't husbands legally yet. They wouldn't say bring your boyfriend or they wouldn't introduce your boyfriend to other family members of friends as your boyfriend. It was if your friend wants to come, um, And it was just this way of holding us with tongs and desexualizing our relationships for their comfort.

We're in husbands yet. A lot of us were husbands emotionally, but we weren't husbands legally yet. They wouldn't say bring your boyfriend or they wouldn't introduce your boyfriend to other family members of friends as your boyfriend. It was if your friend wants to come, um, And it was just this way of holding us with tongs and desexualizing our relationships for their comfort.

Your brother is stripping your niece of her essential sense of herself or gender for his own comfort, but also to communicate to your niece his disapproval, which is part of what our families were doing when it was friend. I will acknowledge this is a friend of yours, but not

Your brother is stripping your niece of her essential sense of herself or gender for his own comfort, but also to communicate to your niece his disapproval, which is part of what our families were doing when it was friend. I will acknowledge this is a friend of yours, but not

what this person actually is in your life, because I'm uncomfortable with what this person actually is in your life and how you live your life and who you are. fundamentally who you are. I'm uncomfortable with who you are. I disagree with who you are. And that's what we were getting when it was, this is Dan's friend.

what this person actually is in your life, because I'm uncomfortable with what this person actually is in your life and how you live your life and who you are. fundamentally who you are. I'm uncomfortable with who you are. I disagree with who you are. And that's what we were getting when it was, this is Dan's friend.

And we yelled at our parents and we decided, you know, they would say, this is Danny's friend. And I would say, boyfriend, not quite an air horn, but I would, I would make it awkward. So make it the fuck awkward, make it awkward for your brother.

And we yelled at our parents and we decided, you know, they would say, this is Danny's friend. And I would say, boyfriend, not quite an air horn, but I would, I would make it awkward. So make it the fuck awkward, make it awkward for your brother.

And if there's anybody else out there who faced this with parents, any trans listeners out there who faced this with parents, any supportive siblings or parents of trans kids whose other parent was being an asshole in this way, what did you do? Did you do the air horn?

And if there's anybody else out there who faced this with parents, any trans listeners out there who faced this with parents, any supportive siblings or parents of trans kids whose other parent was being an asshole in this way, what did you do? Did you do the air horn?

What did you do if you finally were able to bring that person around who was being an asshole to your trans kid or sibling or friend? What did you do? What did you say? What worked? All right, time for listener feedback. First up, some of the comments left on last week's show in the very lively comment threads at savage.love. Says no cute name.

What did you do if you finally were able to bring that person around who was being an asshole to your trans kid or sibling or friend? What did you do? What did you say? What worked? All right, time for listener feedback. First up, some of the comments left on last week's show in the very lively comment threads at savage.love. Says no cute name.

Dan, in your conversation with Rebecca Wolf, you said Antonio Banderas is masturbating Nicole Kidman at the end of Baby Girl. I haven't seen the movie, but I assume the husband is fingering the character, not masturbating her, because by definition, masturbation refers to touching oneself. I would never say someone is masturbating someone else."

Dan, in your conversation with Rebecca Wolf, you said Antonio Banderas is masturbating Nicole Kidman at the end of Baby Girl. I haven't seen the movie, but I assume the husband is fingering the character, not masturbating her, because by definition, masturbation refers to touching oneself. I would never say someone is masturbating someone else."