Dan Savage

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I'm going to be talking to Rebecca Wolf at the end of this episode about Nicole Kidman's performance in Baby Girl, about the movie Baby Girl. One of the things that's really remarkable about Baby Girl is there are the orgasms Nicole Kidman pretends to have,

I'm going to be talking to Rebecca Wolf at the end of this episode about Nicole Kidman's performance in Baby Girl, about the movie Baby Girl. One of the things that's really remarkable about Baby Girl is there are the orgasms Nicole Kidman pretends to have,

with her husband and then there are the orgasms she actually has when she masturbates or later in the film when she first has an orgasm oh my god this is such spoiler alert shit spoiler spoiler skip ahead if you don't want to hear details of baby girl if you haven't heard haven't seen baby girl yet everything i'm talking about happens in the first two minutes so i'm not giving much away

with her husband and then there are the orgasms she actually has when she masturbates or later in the film when she first has an orgasm oh my god this is such spoiler alert shit spoiler spoiler skip ahead if you don't want to hear details of baby girl if you haven't heard haven't seen baby girl yet everything i'm talking about happens in the first two minutes so i'm not giving much away

But there are the orgasms Nicole Kidman's character has, Romy is the character's name, when she's pretending to have an orgasm. And then the orgasms she actually has where she makes these weird guttural animal gross grunting sounds where she loses control. And it's one of the messages of the film that women are not allowed to Be animals like that.

But there are the orgasms Nicole Kidman's character has, Romy is the character's name, when she's pretending to have an orgasm. And then the orgasms she actually has where she makes these weird guttural animal gross grunting sounds where she loses control. And it's one of the messages of the film that women are not allowed to Be animals like that.

And so your question is about a guy and the weird sounds a guy is making. And what I want to tell you is people are allowed to make whatever sounds they need to make, want to make, do make. They're not in control of those sounds necessarily. Just like we're not in control of the faces we make when we're climaxing. And you kind of have to be okay with it. You can get used to it. You can actually...

And so your question is about a guy and the weird sounds a guy is making. And what I want to tell you is people are allowed to make whatever sounds they need to make, want to make, do make. They're not in control of those sounds necessarily. Just like we're not in control of the faces we make when we're climaxing. And you kind of have to be okay with it. You can get used to it. You can actually...

Do a little pivot where you invest in it because this is how my lover sounds when I have gotten my lover there. And it may feel strange or off-putting at first if you're with somebody new and they make some crazy fucking face, crazy fucking sound. You will get used to it. You will acclimate in time. You can make a conscious decision to –

Do a little pivot where you invest in it because this is how my lover sounds when I have gotten my lover there. And it may feel strange or off-putting at first if you're with somebody new and they make some crazy fucking face, crazy fucking sound. You will get used to it. You will acclimate in time. You can make a conscious decision to –

open up to a positive association, to positively associating, positively correlating those sounds, that face with pleasure, your pleasure. And if you came first, you got yours, but also your capacity to give them pleasure. And you will, with a little effort, little intentionality, you will begin to

open up to a positive association, to positively associating, positively correlating those sounds, that face with pleasure, your pleasure. And if you came first, you got yours, but also your capacity to give them pleasure. And you will, with a little effort, little intentionality, you will begin to

perceive what now is off-putting as the win it actually is and evidence of this person's comfort level with you that they can be vulnerable like that with you in the moment and make those fucking gross crazy fucking sounds when they're blowing their lungs This episode is brought to you by field.

perceive what now is off-putting as the win it actually is and evidence of this person's comfort level with you that they can be vulnerable like that with you in the moment and make those fucking gross crazy fucking sounds when they're blowing their lungs This episode is brought to you by field.

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