Dan Savage

Trying to build up enough of an erotic charge of self-denial and desperation that I'll want to fuck her or tricking her into eating more than she would otherwise normally eat in an effort to make her ass bigger for me. Yeah. The right thing to do in a situation like that is say, hey, look.

Trying to build up enough of an erotic charge of self-denial and desperation that I'll want to fuck her or tricking her into eating more than she would otherwise normally eat in an effort to make her ass bigger for me. Yeah. The right thing to do in a situation like that is say, hey, look.

i'm really sorry i really like you i hope we can be friends that's the queer superpower a lot of queer people's friends are people that they briefly dated or even dated for a long time i hope we can be really good friends but i don't think that this is going to work out and it's not your fault and it's not my fault her body unless she is seriously unhealthy and requires an intervention

i'm really sorry i really like you i hope we can be friends that's the queer superpower a lot of queer people's friends are people that they briefly dated or even dated for a long time i hope we can be really good friends but i don't think that this is going to work out and it's not your fault and it's not my fault her body unless she is seriously unhealthy and requires an intervention

Because she does have an observable eating disorder, in which case you need to link arms with family or friends, people you probably haven't met eight weeks into this relationship. But if it's just this is her natural body type and she's just a slim person, thank her for her service and end the relationship. And keep your feelings about the inadequacies of her body to yourself.

Because she does have an observable eating disorder, in which case you need to link arms with family or friends, people you probably haven't met eight weeks into this relationship. But if it's just this is her natural body type and she's just a slim person, thank her for her service and end the relationship. And keep your feelings about the inadequacies of her body to yourself.

That's the sort of thing.

That's the sort of thing.

Even if you're breaking up with somebody and they ask you for the real reason, if the real reason is something that once they've heard, they can't unhear and is likely to stay with them in a way that could do them long-term damage, that could make it impossible for them to feel comfortable naked in front of anybody else ever again, you don't say that thing out loud even if it's the truth, even if they beg you for the truth.

Even if you're breaking up with somebody and they ask you for the real reason, if the real reason is something that once they've heard, they can't unhear and is likely to stay with them in a way that could do them long-term damage, that could make it impossible for them to feel comfortable naked in front of anybody else ever again, you don't say that thing out loud even if it's the truth, even if they beg you for the truth.

Sometimes the loving fucking thing to do is lean on the white lies that are available to us all. It's not you, it's me, it's not the right time for me, blah, blah, blah, whatever, and spare this person. Because she's going to feel like it's her fault. And if there's nothing wrong with her body, if she's not unhealthy, if she doesn't have disordered eating, it's not her fault. It's yours.

Sometimes the loving fucking thing to do is lean on the white lies that are available to us all. It's not you, it's me, it's not the right time for me, blah, blah, blah, whatever, and spare this person. Because she's going to feel like it's her fault. And if there's nothing wrong with her body, if she's not unhealthy, if she doesn't have disordered eating, it's not her fault. It's yours.

And it's not your fault either. It's just like how you're wired sexually and erotically. You tried to make this work. It's not going to work. And you end it. That's how you honor the campsite rule. You honor the campsite rule by sticking the dismount, by leaving someone in better shape than you found them. Be kind. Lean on the white lies. Wind this relationship down. And don't wind it down.

And it's not your fault either. It's just like how you're wired sexually and erotically. You tried to make this work. It's not going to work. And you end it. That's how you honor the campsite rule. You honor the campsite rule by sticking the dismount, by leaving someone in better shape than you found them. Be kind. Lean on the white lies. Wind this relationship down. And don't wind it down.

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