Dan Savage

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Risk for all the other sexually transmitted infections that he needs to worry about, but... Not HIV, which means he doesn't have to worry about getting on PrEP if he's going to limit himself to, at least with casual partners for now, oral mutual masturbation. Awkward things for moms to talk with their gay sons about. Things moms might have to talk with their gay sons about.

The other thing you're going to have to talk with him about, in addition to reminding him, is we should remind all kids that As action movies are to Tuesdays, so is porn to actual sex. It's a distortion. Tuesdays don't look like Bruce Willis movies from the 80s and 90s, and real sex often doesn't look like porn. Occasionally, an action movie breaks out on a Tuesday, but that's not a usual Tuesday.

The other thing you're going to have to talk with him about, in addition to reminding him, is we should remind all kids that As action movies are to Tuesdays, so is porn to actual sex. It's a distortion. Tuesdays don't look like Bruce Willis movies from the 80s and 90s, and real sex often doesn't look like porn. Occasionally, an action movie breaks out on a Tuesday, but that's not a usual Tuesday.

Usual sex doesn't look like sex and porn most of the time, something that kids need to know. The other thing I always think we should say to kids about sex is, or about porn, when you watch porn, what do you think happened before they started filming? And a light bulb goes off in a kid's head. They go, oh, they talked about it.

Usual sex doesn't look like sex and porn most of the time, something that kids need to know. The other thing I always think we should say to kids about sex is, or about porn, when you watch porn, what do you think happened before they started filming? And a light bulb goes off in a kid's head. They go, oh, they talked about it.

Yeah, they negotiated what was going to happen, what they were going to film. It was a conversation first. Consent was obtained in advance. Porn can make it look like sex just breaks out. It just happens. But when you're watching porn, there was a decision to turn on a camera. There was a decision to make a film about

Yeah, they negotiated what was going to happen, what they were going to film. It was a conversation first. Consent was obtained in advance. Porn can make it look like sex just breaks out. It just happens. But when you're watching porn, there was a decision to turn on a camera. There was a decision to make a film about

And there was an agreement before that was made, before the camera began to roll, about what was going to be filmed and what was going to happen. And you need to have those kinds of conversations with your first boyfriends the same way the porn stars that you're hoping to emulate when you begin to have sex had those conversations with their exes. co-stars.

And there was an agreement before that was made, before the camera began to roll, about what was going to be filmed and what was going to happen. And you need to have those kinds of conversations with your first boyfriends the same way the porn stars that you're hoping to emulate when you begin to have sex had those conversations with their exes. co-stars.

The last thing you need to talk about is Grindr. You know, when I was a gay kid, when I was a teenager, my boyfriend was in his late 20s and I was a teenager and that was a wildly inappropriate relationship. And what I thought at the time, although it was a great relationship, he was really good to me, he really helped me. What I thought at the time was, well, I have no options.

The last thing you need to talk about is Grindr. You know, when I was a gay kid, when I was a teenager, my boyfriend was in his late 20s and I was a teenager and that was a wildly inappropriate relationship. And what I thought at the time, although it was a great relationship, he was really good to me, he really helped me. What I thought at the time was, well, I have no options.

Nobody my age is out. And my options are no boyfriend or an inappropriate boyfriend. And of course, I chose the inappropriate boyfriend. And I always thought one of the good things about kids coming out younger and younger would be is that eventually...

Nobody my age is out. And my options are no boyfriend or an inappropriate boyfriend. And of course, I chose the inappropriate boyfriend. And I always thought one of the good things about kids coming out younger and younger would be is that eventually...

Young gay boys would have the option of dating the other out gay boys in their high schools or their middle schools, just like little straight kids have the option of dating other little straight kids in their high schools or middle schools, and sometimes the closeted gay kids in their high schools and middle schools. That's not what's happened.

Young gay boys would have the option of dating the other out gay boys in their high schools or their middle schools, just like little straight kids have the option of dating other little straight kids in their high schools or middle schools, and sometimes the closeted gay kids in their high schools and middle schools. That's not what's happened.

Everybody I talk to who's 30 or under about their first relationships, first sexual experiences, rarely was it somebody, some other gay kid who was out that they knew about In their social circle or in high school, rarely, almost invariably, it was still somebody kind of inappropriate that they met on Grindr when they were fingers crossed 18, which is when you're allowed to get on Grindr.

Everybody I talk to who's 30 or under about their first relationships, first sexual experiences, rarely was it somebody, some other gay kid who was out that they knew about In their social circle or in high school, rarely, almost invariably, it was still somebody kind of inappropriate that they met on Grindr when they were fingers crossed 18, which is when you're allowed to get on Grindr.

Some people get on Grindr before they're 18. It's a problem. And so you need to say to your kid, look, everybody you meet on Grindr isn't going to be a serial killer, right? But you may meet some people on Grindr who are looking for young and inexperienced boys so that they can exploit your naivete and inexperience to get what they want.

Some people get on Grindr before they're 18. It's a problem. And so you need to say to your kid, look, everybody you meet on Grindr isn't going to be a serial killer, right? But you may meet some people on Grindr who are looking for young and inexperienced boys so that they can exploit your naivete and inexperience to get what they want.