Dan Savage

You know, the problem, the thing we never want to think about with young people becoming sexually active is like, oh, beware of these creeps who want to use you when... What that kid is thinking is, oh my God, I so desperately want to be used. And you need to figure out how to balance that in this conversation with your son. There are people who are going to want to use you.

You know, the problem, the thing we never want to think about with young people becoming sexually active is like, oh, beware of these creeps who want to use you when... What that kid is thinking is, oh my God, I so desperately want to be used. And you need to figure out how to balance that in this conversation with your son. There are people who are going to want to use you.

I understand that you want to be used. There are ways you want to exist sexually in the world and give and get pleasure, but you need to be on your guard. And the most important thing that you can do for your kid is tell them they can come to you.

I understand that you want to be used. There are ways you want to exist sexually in the world and give and get pleasure, but you need to be on your guard. And the most important thing that you can do for your kid is tell them they can come to you.

What I saw when I was closeted and a teenager and I had a boyfriend who was 10, 12 years older than I was, when my sister had an issue with her boyfriend who was age appropriate, she could talk to my mom about it. And if my sister's boyfriend was telling my sister, if you love me, we wouldn't have to use condoms. She would say that to my mom who would blow the fuck up.

What I saw when I was closeted and a teenager and I had a boyfriend who was 10, 12 years older than I was, when my sister had an issue with her boyfriend who was age appropriate, she could talk to my mom about it. And if my sister's boyfriend was telling my sister, if you love me, we wouldn't have to use condoms. She would say that to my mom who would blow the fuck up.

She would say that to my mom who would call my sister's boyfriend on the phone and blow the fuck up at him. And I couldn't say anything to my mom about what my boyfriend was saying to me because my mom didn't know I had a boyfriend and I couldn't tell her. Your kid, when he becomes sexually active, make sure that he knows he can come to you. He has a question.

She would say that to my mom who would call my sister's boyfriend on the phone and blow the fuck up at him. And I couldn't say anything to my mom about what my boyfriend was saying to me because my mom didn't know I had a boyfriend and I couldn't tell her. Your kid, when he becomes sexually active, make sure that he knows he can come to you. He has a question.

If somebody is making him feel uncomfortable, if he feels like he's being pressured, if somebody told him something and said, this is normal, everybody does this, he can bounce that off you and you can Google it together. and that you will be the mom on the phone yelling at the boyfriend for your son, the same way my mom was the mom on the phone yelling at her boyfriend for my sister.

If somebody is making him feel uncomfortable, if he feels like he's being pressured, if somebody told him something and said, this is normal, everybody does this, he can bounce that off you and you can Google it together. and that you will be the mom on the phone yelling at the boyfriend for your son, the same way my mom was the mom on the phone yelling at her boyfriend for my sister.

One of the things we pretend we hate about our parents when we're adolescents, but we rely on our parents for, and we're grateful to our parents one day Two, for having intervened, for having interfered. That's what so many gay kids who are closeted don't have in their lives is the normal, healthy interventions and interference from their parents that their straight siblings or peers benefit from.

One of the things we pretend we hate about our parents when we're adolescents, but we rely on our parents for, and we're grateful to our parents one day Two, for having intervened, for having interfered. That's what so many gay kids who are closeted don't have in their lives is the normal, healthy interventions and interference from their parents that their straight siblings or peers benefit from.

And that's what your kid has, which I didn't have when I was a teenager. That's what your kid has to such an advantage that you can be there for him when he needs you. That's how you end that conversation that your kid doesn't want to have.

And that's what your kid has, which I didn't have when I was a teenager. That's what your kid has to such an advantage that you can be there for him when he needs you. That's how you end that conversation that your kid doesn't want to have.

You say this was a weaponization of queer discourse to rationalize the orgasm gap. I say the devil can cite scripture for his purpose, an evil soul producing holy witness. Fuck these guys. Don't fuck these guys. Never fuck these guys again. These guys have disqualified themselves from ever being within a hundred yards of your pussy when your pussy is out and open for business ever again. Yeah.

You say this was a weaponization of queer discourse to rationalize the orgasm gap. I say the devil can cite scripture for his purpose, an evil soul producing holy witness. Fuck these guys. Don't fuck these guys. Never fuck these guys again. These guys have disqualified themselves from ever being within a hundred yards of your pussy when your pussy is out and open for business ever again. Yeah.

Expecting an orgasm is heteronormative, says the heterosexual guys who just had their orgasms. Fuck that. No, no, no, no. Fuck that. Don't fuck them. Never fuck them again. Talk shit about them to other women in your social circles, in your lives, if you're in a poly community.

Expecting an orgasm is heteronormative, says the heterosexual guys who just had their orgasms. Fuck that. No, no, no, no. Fuck that. Don't fuck them. Never fuck them again. Talk shit about them to other women in your social circles, in your lives, if you're in a poly community.

So other women know that if they're going to fuck these guys, despite the heads up you gave them, that they better make sure that they came first. Because if they don't come first, they're not going to come at all or come with the assist that they are owed. Look, I get it. Like, there is something, you know, a woman... can potentially have multiple orgasms, not all women can.

So other women know that if they're going to fuck these guys, despite the heads up you gave them, that they better make sure that they came first. Because if they don't come first, they're not going to come at all or come with the assist that they are owed. Look, I get it. Like, there is something, you know, a woman... can potentially have multiple orgasms, not all women can.