Dan Savage

Sex workers often talk about the fact that one of the hardest things about the job is that we have to constantly perform happiness and fulfillment lest we be judged harshly for our choices. In my area of the industry, full-service in-person work, we only have two tropes, the down-and-out worker or the happy hooker.

Sex workers often talk about the fact that one of the hardest things about the job is that we have to constantly perform happiness and fulfillment lest we be judged harshly for our choices. In my area of the industry, full-service in-person work, we only have two tropes, the down-and-out worker or the happy hooker.

Sex workers have no space to express ambivalence or complex feelings about their work. Sex work is work. I'm pro-sex work, pro-sex worker. But sex work isn't work like other forms of work. Whatever happens at the poultry plant, while arguably more dangerous, especially for the chickens, whatever happens there at the poultry plant is happening outside you, not inside you.

Sex workers have no space to express ambivalence or complex feelings about their work. Sex work is work. I'm pro-sex work, pro-sex worker. But sex work isn't work like other forms of work. Whatever happens at the poultry plant, while arguably more dangerous, especially for the chickens, whatever happens there at the poultry plant is happening outside you, not inside you.

And no one has to pretend to love it. I'm still thinking about this, what this stunt—again, as Philip calls it, this stunt— What it means. We're all talking about what it says about Phillips or sex work or porn or OnlyFans or men. Not all men, but the men. The kind of men who lined up to have sex with Phillips.

And no one has to pretend to love it. I'm still thinking about this, what this stunt—again, as Philip calls it, this stunt— What it means. We're all talking about what it says about Phillips or sex work or porn or OnlyFans or men. Not all men, but the men. The kind of men who lined up to have sex with Phillips.

Her supposed fans, which included men who came in Phillips' eyes again and again after she asked them not to. Men that Phillips excuses with a shrug. Her assumption is that it must have been an accident each and every time it happened. And that for me was... More heartbreaking, more worrisome about Phillips and her state of mind and our culture than seeing her choke up was.

Her supposed fans, which included men who came in Phillips' eyes again and again after she asked them not to. Men that Phillips excuses with a shrug. Her assumption is that it must have been an accident each and every time it happened. And that for me was... More heartbreaking, more worrisome about Phillips and her state of mind and our culture than seeing her choke up was.

Like the anti-porn people... had their priors confirmed by this documentary see porn is the problem i also had one of my priors one of my long-standing priors confirmed by this documentary which is you can have too much dick i have watched friends messy friends messalinas you could call them destroy themselves with sex for free

Like the anti-porn people... had their priors confirmed by this documentary see porn is the problem i also had one of my priors one of my long-standing priors confirmed by this documentary which is you can have too much dick i have watched friends messy friends messalinas you could call them destroy themselves with sex for free

It's hard enough to know when enough is enough, when you're not getting rich off more and more. And I think that's the worry I have. That's my takeaway worry after watching this documentary. I hope Phillips wanted this. But I worry the incentive structure that the internet has created, culturally, fiscally, economically...

It's hard enough to know when enough is enough, when you're not getting rich off more and more. And I think that's the worry I have. That's my takeaway worry after watching this documentary. I hope Phillips wanted this. But I worry the incentive structure that the internet has created, culturally, fiscally, economically...

makes it harder and harder for us to know, just from watching, whether this is what someone like Phillips actually wants. I worry she may not even know that herself. All right, coming up on the Lovecast, tons of your Qs, lots of my As, and on the Magnum, STI expert Dr. Ina Park returns to have our regularly scheduled chat about herpes.

makes it harder and harder for us to know, just from watching, whether this is what someone like Phillips actually wants. I worry she may not even know that herself. All right, coming up on the Lovecast, tons of your Qs, lots of my As, and on the Magnum, STI expert Dr. Ina Park returns to have our regularly scheduled chat about herpes.

We also talk about HPV, brain worms, and the incoming secretary potentially of the Department of Health and Human Services. My conversation with Dr. Ina Park is on the Magnum version of the show that you can subscribe to at savage.love. But we got plenty of great stuff on the show this week for micro listeners.

We also talk about HPV, brain worms, and the incoming secretary potentially of the Department of Health and Human Services. My conversation with Dr. Ina Park is on the Magnum version of the show that you can subscribe to at savage.love. But we got plenty of great stuff on the show this week for micro listeners.

Also, for Magnum subscribers, we have a new Sex and Politics coming out this Thursday with writer, columnist, and podcaster Phoebe Maltz-Bovee, who joins me for an extended conversation about the dilemma of female heterosexuality. And in other news, we have new merch in our merch shop at savage.love. All will be revealed. All will be discussed in detail on next week's show.

Also, for Magnum subscribers, we have a new Sex and Politics coming out this Thursday with writer, columnist, and podcaster Phoebe Maltz-Bovee, who joins me for an extended conversation about the dilemma of female heterosexuality. And in other news, we have new merch in our merch shop at savage.love. All will be revealed. All will be discussed in detail on next week's show.

In the meantime, if you're the holiday gift giving sort, you can give the gift of a Magnum subscription for next year right now for half off until December 31st. Or you can give your loved one a Savage Lovecast t-shirt or a fuck first mug. It's all at savage.love slash shop. All right, let's get to that first call.

In the meantime, if you're the holiday gift giving sort, you can give the gift of a Magnum subscription for next year right now for half off until December 31st. Or you can give your loved one a Savage Lovecast t-shirt or a fuck first mug. It's all at savage.love slash shop. All right, let's get to that first call.