Dan Savage

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Field's new constellation features lets you link profiles with your friends and lovers, so new connections will see who you are within your social context. Start a group chat and find your people with your people. There's no limit to how many times you can change your sexuality, desires, interests, or gender identity at Field.

In fact, 62% of Field members evolved their sexuality, interests, and desires within their first year on the app. Whether you just moved to a new city and need to find a new community, or you're traveling and looking to meet new people, you can find a new bestie at Field. Download Field on the App Store or Google Play.

In fact, 62% of Field members evolved their sexuality, interests, and desires within their first year on the app. Whether you just moved to a new city and need to find a new community, or you're traveling and looking to meet new people, you can find a new bestie at Field. Download Field on the App Store or Google Play.

If you've been wondering about Field because you've heard so much about Field on this show from callers, not just from hosts, I, Dan Savage, recommend that you finally give Field a try yourself.

If you've been wondering about Field because you've heard so much about Field on this show from callers, not just from hosts, I, Dan Savage, recommend that you finally give Field a try yourself.

I'm going to quickly define that problematic term for people who may not be familiar with it. An Eskimo brother, slang term used to describe two men who have had sex with the same partner at different times. When gay men refer to other gay men as a band of brothers, I think that's what they're referring to potentially. I brainstormed this for two seconds and came up with next of skin, but

I'm going to quickly define that problematic term for people who may not be familiar with it. An Eskimo brother, slang term used to describe two men who have had sex with the same partner at different times. When gay men refer to other gay men as a band of brothers, I think that's what they're referring to potentially. I brainstormed this for two seconds and came up with next of skin, but

open to suggestions if anybody else out there has one. But my substitute for Eskimo brothers, problematic, next of skin. All right, time for listener feedback. First up, some of the comments left on last week's show in the very lively comment threads at savage.love. Says by DanFan, Dan, you missed two red flags in the bad boys call.

open to suggestions if anybody else out there has one. But my substitute for Eskimo brothers, problematic, next of skin. All right, time for listener feedback. First up, some of the comments left on last week's show in the very lively comment threads at savage.love. Says by DanFan, Dan, you missed two red flags in the bad boys call.

That just after a couple of months, the caller is already calling him the one and planning a future together with him. And two, complaining about the sex being boring. Honey, this is not the guy for you. There are men out there who are both good people and great lovers. Stop seeing this guy and start seeing your therapist a bit more and find out why you're getting so ahead of yourself here.

That just after a couple of months, the caller is already calling him the one and planning a future together with him. And two, complaining about the sex being boring. Honey, this is not the guy for you. There are men out there who are both good people and great lovers. Stop seeing this guy and start seeing your therapist a bit more and find out why you're getting so ahead of yourself here.

Says Zoftig about the same call. I know we're supposed to take the side of the callers, but I felt much more sympathy for the current quote-unquote nice boyfriend of the caller who likes bad boys than I did for her. Dan's suggestions, while great if they'd been together for a long time...

Says Zoftig about the same call. I know we're supposed to take the side of the callers, but I felt much more sympathy for the current quote-unquote nice boyfriend of the caller who likes bad boys than I did for her. Dan's suggestions, while great if they'd been together for a long time...

and full of broadly good advice for anyone who wants to keep things adventurous in an LTR, defaulted to staying together as the greater good, where I kind of got the impression that this perfectly nice guy might be better off finding someone who'd appreciate him instead of doing all this work to change him.

and full of broadly good advice for anyone who wants to keep things adventurous in an LTR, defaulted to staying together as the greater good, where I kind of got the impression that this perfectly nice guy might be better off finding someone who'd appreciate him instead of doing all this work to change him.

And finally, says Muriel, also about the same call, a word of encouragement to all the good boys out there. I used to date a man who, in his younger years, was often used by girls who were just going with him while waiting for a bad boy to come around. This was painful for him, but this man was by far the sexiest man I've ever known.

And finally, says Muriel, also about the same call, a word of encouragement to all the good boys out there. I used to date a man who, in his younger years, was often used by girls who were just going with him while waiting for a bad boy to come around. This was painful for him, but this man was by far the sexiest man I've ever known.

He is still good, respectful, thoughtful, sensitive, helpful, romantic, but has an intense, playful sexuality that thrilled and transformed me. So hang in there, good guys. Continue to be who you are. There are women out there looking for exactly what you have to offer.

He is still good, respectful, thoughtful, sensitive, helpful, romantic, but has an intense, playful sexuality that thrilled and transformed me. So hang in there, good guys. Continue to be who you are. There are women out there looking for exactly what you have to offer.