Danette

Six months into the relationship, we found out that I, 28 female, was pregnant, even though protection was used.

We both knew we wanted to get married pretty soon after getting together, so we decided to get married after finding out I was pregnant.

He is Puerto Rican, and his family still lives on the island, so I didn't meet them until we went on our honeymoon.

Everyone was so welcoming to me.

As my pregnancy went on, we continued our normal life together happily and smoothly.

Then, after I gave birth to my son, things started to change.

Suddenly, his family, who didn't involve themselves in our relationship, didn't come to our wedding, didn't keep in contact with me about my pregnancy, decided that now they needed to insert their opinions about how to parent and how I should be a good wife.

My husband decided that it would make the most sense for me to stay at home with our son.

He makes more than enough for our family.

So since I'm his main caregiver, it feels like they're constantly criticizing me.

They don't speak English and I'm still learning Spanish.

So they all gossip together in group chats with my husband and request that he tell me their advice.

My own family knows that I have my own way of doing things, and I have a lot of experience with children.

I used to care for multiple children with special needs, so my family doesn't even try to give opinions or advice.

My husband coming to me with all of their opinions is starting to weigh on our relationship.

I've told him this, but he heavily values his mom's opinions specifically and says I shouldn't take it as a bad thing and I should listen to her.

The kind of advice they give is things like saying, at three months old, he is ready for his own room and I shouldn't let him sleep in our room or I shouldn't let him nap in my arms anymore.

Saying, I never put enough clothes on him.

We live in a hot climate and my son sweats most of the time.

Telling me that I'm too attached to my son and should have less attachments.