Danette

In the episode, you talked about being friends with your exes, but I don't know how to do that right now.

We can't have a break in contact because we share a daughter, and we are still living in the same house while he figures out his next move.

It's been about a month.

I'm playing nice so there is no shouting, pointed comments, or anything like that from either of us, but I feel like I am overflowing and barely keeping a lid on my frustration and resentment.

It mostly comes out at night because my daughter isn't a great sleeper.

Exhaustion and sleep deprivation are big triggers for me.

I often find myself crying in the dark while holding her.

When she's finally asleep, I come out and act like everything is fine when it isn't.

I'm angry that we're in this situation, that he made me fall out of love with him by not helping me with our daughter.

I feel like it's his fault our daughter won't grow up with two parents in the same house who are happy and in love.

I didn't want this for my daughter.

She's the most beautiful little girl and deserves the world.

How do I let go of my resentment?

I feel like I need him to leave so I can have space to grieve the relationship, but he has nowhere else to go.

He doesn't have savings, his family is not so great, to say the least, and he doesn't really have any friends.

My ideal outcome is for my daughter to have the best version of me as her mom.

I need to be regulated and happy and calm for her sake so that I can be a good mom for her.

Additional info, I have my doubts that my ex is going to stay involved in our daughter's life long term, so I'm not too worried about having to co-parent with him.

When I asked about a custody schedule, he said every second weekend and that he didn't want any overnights.

Selfishly, I thought, thank God.