Daniel Coyle

We're the quiet professionals.

Yeah, right.

And the only easy day was yesterday.

All these like little things and they're cheesy.

And yet, having that kind of shared language creates these moments of deeper connection and deeper meaning.

They're very strict about keeping the team small and there's something about that number.

Yeah.

a very small number of people on a team creates places where every voice can be heard, where you can have these conversations.

And one thing they're especially good at, I think even better than some of the other groups is having these hard meetings called an AR, where as you're familiar, like it's an after action review and it's right after you finish an operation or a practice run and you circle up and you ask three really hard questions together, right?

And it's usually led not by the commanding officer, it's usually led by an enlisted person.

And it would be like, what went wrong?

What did we do wrong?

What did we do right?

And what are we going to do differently next time?

And that's hard to do.

Like that shared vulnerability that they have, they're really good at it.

And I guess the other thing that I've noticed with them that's unique is just the sheer amount of hanging out time, downtime, empty time, where maybe you're working out, maybe you're

Maybe you're just shooting the breeze, but you're waiting around.

So all of these moments of stillness where they're creating meaning, where they're creating connection, where they're creating relationships.

As we were talking before, relationships aren't a machine.