Daniel Coyle

You don't just exchange information and now we're close.

We don't just exchange faxes and now we're deeply connected into some shared meaning.

It requires these moments of expression.

of risk of vulnerability of connecting to things bigger than yourself and i think they they really deeply embody the dna of what that looks like because if we were to do a kind of a comparison of okay they have these super deep relationships what does that what is how does that compare to the typical set of office friendships or something like that it would be just the differential of the

And yet in the seals, they're doing a lot of stuff that doesn't look important.

And they're hanging out and they have these cheesy mantras and they're joking around.

And all that stuff ends up adding up to create what really is the meat of real relationships.

so smart so smart yeah in all these cases you're not informationing your way to success right you're relationshiping your way there you're constantly creating spaces and if you were to look at all these teams from above you'd see the same thing like this pattern where they circle up as a little group and talk and then they go do something together and then they circle up and talk then they go do something but it's almost like a heartbeat of high performance teams where a talk action reflection action reflection and

It grows.

It's something you don't have teams that walk in and all of a sudden they're great.

It takes time to get that way because you're gardening something in that heartbeat where you're going, let's circle up and have a hard conversation about what really happened.

Now let's go do something else.

Now let's come back and talk about that.

And if any of us do that, we get closer, more cohesive and more high performing.

I think it's deep.

I think there are these, when you look back in the history of so many great groups, so many flourishing groups, you go back a few years and what you find is a crisis often.

It's true in the history of the Seals.

It's true in Pixar.

It's certainly true in the baseball team that I work with here in Cleveland, the Cleveland Guardians, where there's this sort of reckoning where you are seriously encountering real existential adversity.

Existential adversity.