Daniel H. Pink

And that's what an opportunity lost is.

With action regrets, we can

try to undo them.

We can make amends.

We can look for the silver lining and we can reduce the sting.

For inaction regrets, it is harder.

And so the key here and the opportunities lost is to sort of reduce the level of abstraction and say, what are you going to do next time?

Okay.

Not an abstraction of like, oh, I'm going to be more bold.

It's like, what are you going to do next time?

This is what we were talking about with Lily.

What are you going to do next time?

All regrets begin at the juncture.

You can go this way or you can go that way.

And so for Claudia, I would say the next time you're at this juncture, take the opportunity, play it safe, stop, think about your regret, and make the decision there.

Or another thing that you could do, I'll give you another sort of decision-making heuristic, two of them, in fact.

When you're at that juncture, Claudia, next time, go forward five years

And this is called self-distancing.

Be Claudia five years from now.

Look back on Claudia today.