Daniel H. Pink

The idea that people are bugged for years, decades, by these moral breaches earlier in their life.

I think most of us want to do the right thing.

And then connection regrets.

We want love, not love only in the romantic sense, but love in the broader sense of connection and relationship and affinity with other people.

And so in a weird way, this negative emotion of regret points the way to a good life.

By studying regret, we know what constitutes a good life, a life of stability, a life where you have a chance to take a few risks, a life where you're doing the right thing, and a life where you have people who love you and whom you love.

And so to me, I started out saying, oh, boy, is this going to is this book going to be a downer studying regret?

And it ended up being very uplifting.

So so those are the four core regrets.

Regret points us to the good life.

And so I hope that you'll begin to reckon with your own regrets because I think they're going to give you direction to a life well lived.

I found it really interesting how much people want to talk about this.

And that's what got me on it in the first place.

That is, I had an experience in my life where one of my kids graduated from college, and that sort of marker in my life made me start thinking about what regrets that I had

And I just mentioned it to a few people and I found them like leaning into the conversation.

So I was amazed at how much people wanna talk about this and how much this taboo of like, oh, I don't have any regrets is so ridiculous.

I mean, it's absurd.

And that if we actually start talking about it, we're gonna be better off.

For me personally, I think that the biggest,

The biggest takeaway was the connection regrets, because I had so many people who had the same story where they had a friendship, some kind of relationship, and it comes apart and they want to reach out and they say, oh, no, it's going to be really awkward.