Daniel H. Pink

And the other side's not going to care.

And we're so wrong about that.

It's not awkward.

And the other side almost always agrees.

appreciates it.

And so for me, I guess the takeaway is if I'm at a juncture in my life where I'm thinking, should I reach out or should I not reach out?

I've answered the question that the answer to that question at that juncture, if you reach that juncture, the answer is always reach out.

You know, and especially coming out of time like this, Whitney, we need that sense of of of connection.

And and so the ethic of always reaching out to me is is one of the best life lessons that I've I've learned.

Sure, sure.

So let's bring on Lily.

I don't want it to sound like a magic act, but Lily and I don't know each other.

We haven't gone through this before, but what I want to try to do is actually the hearing the stories of people's regrets, I think is super interesting and revealing.

And I just want to, we're going to hear Lily's regret and we're going to talk through what science says might be some appropriate responses to that.

So Lily, welcome.

Hi.

And tell us where you are.

Brooklyn is in the house here at TED membership.

So Lily, tell us your regret.

So is this a regret that's still with you?