Daniel Pink

All right.

But you want some.

You want more, lots and lots of positive emotions.

You want to feel love and awe and excitement and growth.

And you want to have a lot of those.

And you actually want a decent amount of regret because regret helps you grow.

Learn.

I mean, we can analogize to going to the doctor.

You know, you say, oh, I've had a really bad headache for three weeks.

Or do you wait till you're two years from now when you're doubled over and can't breathe?

No, you address it then because that's because like a headache, a headache is a signal.

Hey, something's off.

We have a lot of regrets in the database that are very much like that.

And I think that part of it, in your case and in the case of these other folks, is that when we don't talk about our regrets, when we don't share them, when we don't actively try to make sense of them, we feel like we're the only one.

And we're not.

That's the thing.

Remember, it's universal.

Okay, so what I want to say to them is practice self-compassion.

This is actually, there's a powerful strain of research on the need to be compassionate to ourselves.

This is not some kind of gooey, woo-woo kind of thing.