Daniel Pink

Essentially, here's what I would tell you.

Treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt.

The way we talk to ourselves internally, you idiot, you know, swearing at ourselves internally is lacerating and mean-spirited.

Don't do that.

What would you say to a friend in that situation?

And would you say, you freaking idiot, you're a moron.

You don't know what you're doing.

You're a terrible person.

You wouldn't say that.

I mean, it's preposterous.

You wouldn't say that to a friend.

So treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt.

Treat yourself the way you would treat a friend.

Second thing is what often happens is that when we make a mistake, when we screw up, when we do something that feels shameful, we think that it constitutes the full measure of our life.

And it's not.

It's a moment in your life.

It's not the full measure of your life.

If you think about this timeline, it's like, okay, during this period, you messed up.

But this rest of the stuff, you're a decent person.

Yeah, it's a scene.