Daniel Pink

It's not a real tiger, it's a paper tiger.

But it's really paper.

You go, beep, and you go right through it.

It's like those things in like those, it's like in those cartoons where somebody comes and sees this giant shadow and the person looks like huge.

And then you realize there's this little bitty thing right there.

That's what that is.

So-

What am I gonna say?

I haven't talked to them.

I don't know what they're like.

We over-index on the words we use and don't realize that simply the warmth and the overture was what matters.

There's research on this.

Vanessa Bonds at Cornell has done a lot of this research on compliments.

It's the same thing with compliments.

We don't give enough compliments.

And the reason we don't give compliments is we say, oh, it's going to be really awkward if I give a compliment because I'm not going to say it right or and the other side is not going to care when, in fact, it's not awkward and they do care.

So push past that.

So awkwardness is not, cringe is not an excuse.

Call it whatever you want, guys.

It is not an excuse.