Daniel Pink
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
Quitting at the right time always feels like quitting too early.
That's just the way that it is.
Exactly.
So if I say, oh, this is too early for me to quit.
Oh, it might be a signal that it's the right time.
Right.
And so when we scrutinize our past behavior, we have to think about that person, not this person today, but what did that person know?
Absolutely right.
Yes.
And remember, regret requires agency.
Agency means you have control over what you do.
All right?
I can't regret that it's raining outside.
I can be disappointed if I want to go outside.
I can't regret that because I don't have control over that.
But if I go outside in the rain and don't bring my umbrella, I can regret that.
And there are people in relationships out there who actually don't have agency.
Yeah.
And so you can't beat yourself up for not making decisions when you didn't have the agency.
It'd be like beating yourself up for renting outside.