Daniel Pink

You're putting it on the table, right?

So, but more important than that, I think this is the really interesting thing.

There's a guy at the University of Texas, Jamie Pennebaker, who's done a lot of research on this.

If you write about a big regret you have for 15 minutes a day for three days, you feel better about it.

because what you're doing is you're taking something blobby.

You're taking this like phantom that is like stalking you.

And you're saying, okay, come here, sit down here.

Let's see what you're really made of.

Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh.

And you're converting this blobby thing into concrete words.

And that helps you make sense of it.

It makes it less menacing.

We go from abstract to so much more concrete.

Exactly.

Okay, this is the key.

So the third part is forward.

You gotta actually think hard and draw a lesson from it and say, what is this lesson telling me and what should I do next?

There's some interesting research about self-talk where we're actually more clear-headed when we talk to ourselves in the third person.

As crazy as it sounds.

So instead of me saying, what should I do?