Darby Saxbe

Right?

You can have a really secure attachment to more than one parent.

And the research suggests that dads and moms don't actually have dramatically different levels of attachment to their kids.

So it's healthy for kids to realize there are safe, secure caregivers that I can depend on.

And if this person isn't available, I can go to this person.

Sometimes that's a child care provider.

Sometimes that's mom or a grandparent or a dad.

Different people have their own style.

And kids, again, learn to be adaptable.

They learn to be flexible.

Like what would a dead end street be?

Yeah, I do think because we don't have the collective network of caregivers that maybe we evolved to have, a lot of pressure is on mom and dad, the nuclear family.

And they're trying to play all roles in a kid's life.

And I think as to whether parents can be good teachers, I know for my kids, definitely not.

They don't want to listen to me.

My son is in a phase where he wants to make hip hop beats all day long.

My husband is a music producer.

Oh, wow.

And you think it's like, you know, dad does this for a living.

He could advise on your beats like no interest.