Darren Waller

I've ever been.

And so there's all types of, you know, tactics to help you get there, but just do a lot of writing, a lot of questions, a lot of silent reflection, a lot of putting my phone down, a lot of walking in nature, a lot of things that just like slow me down from where's the next high, where's the next high, the instant gratification is like, let me slow down so I can feel what's coming from my body and reflect on these things and get to know those parts of myself.

It's just like bringing those things to the surface.

If I never went back and did the work to bring, um,

my real authentic childhood experience to the surface those unconscious parts would continue to direct my relationships my direct my relationship with football and that continue to constitute that feeling of being trapped whereas bring those things to the surface forming a relationship with those parts it's like now i can it's not an enemy it's more so an ally something that's

you know, on my side and that I've learned to, to love.

So now it's like when I feel like triggered or experiences that, that may want to push me to act in those ways, it's, I can have more compassion for myself and less shame for myself.

Cause that's shame.

We've been talking about shame the whole time.

Like that shame has been, um,

on me my whole life.

It's never shaming myself to do better has never turned into me doing better or living better.

And so it's like finding ways to eliminate that shame and love, like I said, love those versions of myself.

But yeah, the most important thing for me is bringing those things to the surface and as opposed to trying to avoid them or just feel like it's something that you need to fix.

Absolutely.

I mean, sometimes it can be exhausting of thinking like all the things I need to do to kind of like approach the day from like a healthy baseline.

But it's definitely like prayer meditation in the morning.

I need to walk outside at some point during the day does numbers for me.

There's a lot of journaling.

I saw somebody on TikTok, they put in the term, I guess the term is called raw dogging now.