Dave Evans

Yeah.

You are a particularity.

Your own life is.

Each day is.

And so when suddenly an opportunity to be obsessed comes by, ooh, those don't happen every day.

Now, I'm not saying take every one and don't let it throw you to the ground, but have a stoic relationship with obsession.

Yeah, the grief year after my wife died.

I mean, so I leaned way into that.

And it was incredibly generative.

And people kept saying, you know, the first year is the hardest.

And I'm kind of going like, really?

On the 366th day, it's going to be easier?

I mean, yeah, that's the second time it's May 8th and she's been dead.

I'm not sure that's all that transformative.

But as it turned out, and I think largely because I really did lean all the way in, I became obsessed with grieving well.

And I was really good at it.

I killed it.

Sorry.

Sorry.

brilliant but at the end as the year came along i really did have this oh it's not over but something i literally was sitting quietly and had sort of this dream state of experience um spiritually of i was in the olympic marathon and i was running through the tunnel for that last lap around the track