Dave Evans

But then once you've got one, once you've got a person you trust enough that you believe you deserve to exist,

Now it's time to start emptying out and having a more transcendent experience.

And it is a real tough transition for most people.

Sure.

But I think what it really means is, I mean, people made those transitions in their mid-late 30s to early 40s before because they're going to die at 50.

And now just the window of time during which that transition can occur has stretched.

And shifted.

And so what's happening is people are doubling down.

So William Bridges wrote the book Transitions, Making Sense of Life's Big Changes.

So he posits years ago as an 80s self-help classic.

It's a good book based on Erickson's work that changes are outside-in realities that happen to you.

Transitions are the internal experience of managing them.

And his observation was that transitions are three steps, not two.

It's not an ending followed by a new beginning.

It's an ending followed by the neutral zone.

So, you know, it's over, then you're lost, right?

And then you get refound.

But you don't go from found to found.

Such a good point.

That's so good.