Dave Ramsey

Okay.

So financial abuse where you don't have access to the numbers is not as traumatic as actual abuse.

And so when we use the term financial abuse, it's not

real abuse.

It's a descriptive term to say, you know, you're in a situation where you're not being treated right.

That's different than abuse.

But in our culture today overall, we have taken some of these words and we've used them so flippantly that we forgot what they actually mean.

And so anytime I disagree with someone, I call them a narcissist.

Well, you need to actually understand what a narcissist is before you say that.

Because just because someone hurts your feelings doesn't mean they're a narcissist.

And just because we use the word abuse doesn't mean that it's descriptive of what is going on at the trauma level.

Okay, yes, it's a toxic and horrible marriage, a bad relationship.

That's way different than real abuse.

So we're guilty of participating in overstating, overdramatizing some of these things like financial infidelity or financial abuse as if it was as bad as infidelity or real abuse.

It's not.

OK, so when you call us up and say, am I being financially abused?

It's way different than if you call us up and say, my husband's hitting me.

Totally different reaction here because different parts of the way you deal with trauma in those situations is completely different from a psychological viewpoint, from Dr. Deloney's insight and input on this.

Way different.

So if you call me up and say I'm in an abusive, physically abusive relationship, I am not going to shame you.