David Batty

And I think I just kind of sat there sort of stunned.

What she went on to say in that moment of anger was...

that, of course you know that your birth father wanted me to have an abortion.

And as I say, this was in the middle of a restaurant, said very loudly.

And that was the thing that really stunned me because

you know by that point in my life of course I'd consider the fact that abortion is something that would likely have been considered but you know in that moment I was just so taken aback by that and just like where are my feelings in all this because I was

You know, I had a lot of sympathy with her, but I wasn't the person who caused this.

That was the system.

I think when I saw the adoption social worker again after that meeting, I realised what she really wants is she wants her baby back.

That's what she's longing for.

And this was really the disconnect.

We didn't see each other again after that.

We kept in contact and it was sort of cordial contact.

But I was just incredibly wary of meeting her again after that because I was just like, I don't want to have to deal with this.

This is such a huge...

you know, depth of feeling, you know, gradually it petered out and my responses to her became less and less frequent.

And I think I just kind of reached that point where it was just like, have you just not got it that I'm actually really upset by what happened at that restaurant?

And I think, you know, I wrote that email to her.

It was very sort of direct and to the point that I can't do this anymore.

You know, I don't want to continue contact.