David Cooper

Or do you stay engaged and work on these kind of like boring things for six months to stay on track?

In this sense, it can take courage to be patient.

Emotional regulation.

I think one of the great skills that divides us, the adults from the feral adolescents, it's such an important skill, but waiting is frustrating.

Whether it's on a short term, a medium term, a long term, you know, I deal with waiting by creating spreadsheets to like track progress in time.

I don't know if that's my coping mechanism spreadsheets.

Talk to me about emotional regulation.

Like, how important is it to learn not to fly off the handle when someone tells you to wait?

I remember when COVID first hit, like the patience to wait for the pandemic to end, I think was a scary thing for a lot of people dealing with the unknown.

We're talking a lot about the virtues of patience and the benefits of it and why it's great.

How can I learn it?

Sort of like a toolkit.

Exactly.

This reappraisal idea, looking at things differently, trying to take a different perspective, maybe even trying to be empathetic of the person on the other end, trying your patience.

On the one hand, it sounds powerful.

On the other hand, sounds a bit like gaslighting yourself.

Like what's the line between denying reality and tempering and looking at things differently?

And sitting with the emotion is what I'm hearing.

I don't know what I pay my therapist for.

I could have just had you on the show and you could tell me to sit with my feelings because I feel like that's every session.