David Deida

Intimacy often involves

emotional sensitivity um feeling the other person obviously and most men during sex because of their evolutionary past gets so wrapped up in the physical sensations have an erection i'm gonna ejaculate look at her breasts look at her ass like they're they're in this evolutionary churn that most men know we all know that

So it makes it easy for them to talk about sexuality, but because they're deeply identified with nothingness, so at the depth of men, of the masculine, is this emptiness, this nothingness, and the emotions are anything but empty.

They're still the emptiness.

Most men...

because they don't really realize how much they love the nothingness, they don't like filling it with emotion.

So often a woman will ask a man like, what are you feeling?

And he'll go, well, nothing.

And he's not lying.

Or, you know, what do you feel about this?

And he might say, I don't have any feelings about it.

Often they're not lying.

They're really feeling this kind of sense of emptiness, or not in a negative way, just it's a nothing, it's an aware nothingness.

And they're not feeling an emotion.

And so the woman will feel like he's not sharing with me

And the man will feel like, why is she creating a problem when there is none?

So there's a big difference between the way typically the masculine and feminine communicate and why that difference is.

When one is in the man of zero phase, one of the obvious things is that

That beingness or awareness, being aware, is in all beings.

Like you could look into a dog's eye and see their awareness.