David Heinemeier Hansson (DHH)

And if you like some of those parts, realize that to me in this situation,

The kids, the family, the wife is more important than all of it.

And it sounds like a cliche because you've heard it a thousand times before.

And by becoming a cliche, maybe you start believing it's not true, that it's just something people say.

but it is reality.

I know almost no parents that I have personal relationships with that don't consider their children to be the most important thing in their life.

One of the reasons I think it's also difficult is, I mean, I like kids.

Not that I actively dislike them.

But when I was around other people's kids, I didn't have a emotional reaction.

Some women have, right?

They see a baby and they go, oh, I never had any emotion of that.

I mean, I could appreciate, I'm glad for you that you have children.

It did not provoke anything in me.

The emotions that are provoked in me when I look at my own children, just

This doesn't exist in the same universe.

So you don't have something, you don't have a complete parallel, or at least a lot of men, or at least me, I didn't have sort of a framework to put it into.

What would it be like to have my own child?

And then you experience it, it's like the... And it happens so quickly too.

This is what I found fascinating.

It happens before that little human is even able to return any words to you.