David Heinemeier Hansson (DHH)

Because I think as you just accounted, even when it turns to shit, I find that most of the people I personally know where things have fallen apart and have turned to shit are

Never in a million years would they go like, I regret it.

I would rather my children did not exist because a relationship turned sour.

I mean, I think you should try very hard.

And I think this is also one of those things where we didn't fully understand those fences.

And when we pulled them up and celebrated how easy it is to get divorced, for example, that that wasn't going to have some negative consequences.

I'm not saying you shouldn't have divorces.

I'm not saying return to marriage.

Times past, I am saying, though, that civilization over thousands of years developed certain technologies for ensuring the continuation of its own institutions and its own life that perhaps we didn't fully appreciate.

I mean, again...

This is something Jordan Peterson and others are far more articulate to speak about and that I've learned a lot to just analyze my own situation.

Why is it that this incredible burden it is to be responsible for someone else's life that you brought into this world is also the most rewarding part of existence?

That's just curious.

Mm-hmm.

Before I heard Peterson articulate the value of taking on the greatest burden you know how to carry, I always thought about burdens as negative things.

Why would I want the burden of a child?

I might screw it up.

I might be a bad parent.

They might have bad outcomes.

All this stuff, right?