David Kessler

Isn't that what's supposed to happen?

Not true.

I often think of early grief, and this is what people need to know, especially if you've got a friend out there and you're wondering when they're going to get over this.

I think of early grief as the first two years.

Early grief is the first two years.

Your friend that's taking too long is still in early grief.

Mm-hmm.

And then that becomes their self-judgment.

Yes.

They're doing it wrong.

And it's really important to hold true to yourself and not to the people who are giving you advice.

Listen, most people, when I'm talking to them, they'll go, my sister, my brother, my person says it's time to move on.

And I'll go, oh, and they did that in six months when

Their husband, wife, sister, brother, parent died, and they go, oh, no, no, their loved one's still alive.

And I go, wait a minute, you're taking advice from someone whose loved one's alive that hasn't gone through what you're gone through?

I tell people, you've just become the grief expert, not them.

Don't listen to someone who's never gone through it.

Don't take that on.

Trust yourself.

Don't put it on a timeline.