David Kessler

Get it off the timeline.

I think the other thing is that grief just isn't being sad and crying in the corner.

Grief is sometimes anger.

Grief is sometimes just annoyance, challenges in life.

You know, I often say there's so many different colors to grief.

There's not, there's no one way to do it.

In my group, every week we take on a topic, jealousy, anger, some feeling, who would they be if they were still alive, all kinds of things.

And tons of people share and they purposely do that because I want people to know there's not one voice in grief, not even mine, not anyone.

Like there's a hundred opinions.

And we need to get so many different ways to do your grief.

I always say when people have had a spouse die, it's like being half a pair of scissors.

like being half a pair of scissors.

Now, here's the thing.

Sometimes we make a mistake in our modern world and use toxic positivity.

Your mom whose spouse died says, it's brutal to sit across from that empty chair.

Sometimes we think, oh, let's throw some spirituality at them.

Oh, mom, dad's always with you.

And here's the thing.

We miss them in that moment.

We miss them.