David Kessler

And it's going to be my living, breathing apology.

we died and my last words were an argument, oh my gosh, my living amends is going to be for the rest of my life.

I will never leave an argument like that again with anyone.

And every time I'm in an argument, I will do my best to at least end it with kindness and love, even if we disagree.

And that's my living, breathing apology to you.

I have a disloyalty checklist I walk people through.

What's a disloyalty checklist?

It's literally things like you said.

Here's a disloyalty checklist.

You find yourself laughing, having fun, feeling guilty for making a big decision, trying something new, doing something for yourself, making a new friend.

Like people feel disloyal about these things.

saying goodbye to the person's clothes, accepting an invitation, changing something about yourself or where you lived, changing something about the trips you take, skipping a tradition, moving, forgetting a birthday.

There's a million little disloyal moments.

And they interrupt the pure grief because we think it's about disloyalty.

And the truth is, disloyalty doesn't live in the heart.

It lives in the mind.

And if we can release that and go, I'll tell you something that was one of my disloyalties.

I had to cancel a lot of lectures after my son died.

I had to then go back and pick them up months later and didn't know how I would do that.

We sent out the same brochure that was originally sent, new dates, blah, blah, blah.