David Perlmutter

And that leads to part three.

And it's not easy.

Find me someone who's not gonna tell me what you just told me, including me.

Because I'm gonna make a reference that you're not gonna understand.

The Cleavers don't exist.

Now the Cleavers were the parents of Leave it to Beaver.

Ward and June Cleaver, they were like the perfect family.

Although I always thought Ward was a bit of a jerk.

He was a little bit overbearing.

But we all had our stuff growing up.

And I came to a realization not long ago that looking at each of my parents that they did the best they could with the tools that they had.

And I think of my father's upbringing and very different from my mother's upbringing.

And their childhood experiences were really rough.

And they built phase two based upon their needing to survive and what they felt would work for them.

And it was during that second chapter of their lives

that they raised us as children and passed on a lot of that stuff through their parenting skills.

And I did the same thing.

But it's a good framework.

There's a new book by Barnett Bain.

It has to do with why friendship is so important.