David Sloan
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With somebody like Cleve Jones deciding that everyone should have a quilt as part of the AIDS Memorial quilt.
That seems very 19th century.
Because if you really think about how we mourned the dead in that period, say from 1950s on to quite recently, it's really the family's going to go to the funeral.
People are going to come.
Family's going to go to the cemetery by themselves.
They might have a reception.
They might not have a reception.
And then you move on.
Right.
That's America's way of death.
America's way of death is put it away, come back to work.
Yeah.
Go back to work.
Get a new husband.
You're going forward.
You're moving forward.
By its very nature, that denies the death.
The death is supposed to play very little role in your life.
So grieving is really hard, right?
It's very hard to grieve in that situation because everybody's telling you, okay, we understand.