David Sutcliffe

Yeah, I agree. You see that a lot in the kind of red pill community, like never share your feelings with your woman. And I mean, I understand they're reacting to the opposite pole of that. which is there's this movement to sharing everything with your wife, like that she's your best friend and you want to open up, you want to be vulnerable.

Yeah, I agree. You see that a lot in the kind of red pill community, like never share your feelings with your woman. And I mean, I understand they're reacting to the opposite pole of that. which is there's this movement to sharing everything with your wife, like that she's your best friend and you want to open up, you want to be vulnerable.

Yeah, I agree. You see that a lot in the kind of red pill community, like never share your feelings with your woman. And I mean, I understand they're reacting to the opposite pole of that. which is there's this movement to sharing everything with your wife, like that she's your best friend and you want to open up, you want to be vulnerable.

And it's important that she sees you feel and that creates connection and intimacy. And, you know, I'm a therapy guy. So I can relate to that to a degree. And I did that, you know, when I first, when I started therapy and everything, especially into my training. And that's all you're doing is revealing yourself over and over and over again. And then I would do that in my relationships.

And it's important that she sees you feel and that creates connection and intimacy. And, you know, I'm a therapy guy. So I can relate to that to a degree. And I did that, you know, when I first, when I started therapy and everything, especially into my training. And that's all you're doing is revealing yourself over and over and over again. And then I would do that in my relationships.

And it's important that she sees you feel and that creates connection and intimacy. And, you know, I'm a therapy guy. So I can relate to that to a degree. And I did that, you know, when I first, when I started therapy and everything, especially into my training. And that's all you're doing is revealing yourself over and over and over again. And then I would do that in my relationships.

And it took me some time to realize like, no, that's too much. Like I don't need to be sharing all of that with her. Um, so I have to be discerning. I have to be able to contain things within myself. I think that's a real practice learning containment, which is not suppression or repression. There's a difference, obviously. Um, there's certain things. Yeah.

And it took me some time to realize like, no, that's too much. Like I don't need to be sharing all of that with her. Um, so I have to be discerning. I have to be able to contain things within myself. I think that's a real practice learning containment, which is not suppression or repression. There's a difference, obviously. Um, there's certain things. Yeah.

And it took me some time to realize like, no, that's too much. Like I don't need to be sharing all of that with her. Um, so I have to be discerning. I have to be able to contain things within myself. I think that's a real practice learning containment, which is not suppression or repression. There's a difference, obviously. Um, there's certain things. Yeah.

I have, I need to take to the boys and there's risks I have to take with my wife that are going to be vulnerable, right? There's things that maybe, um, uh, I need that I need to express to her or the example I just gave that I've, you know, that there's places where I, I feel afraid right now. Um, the, the whole game for me is, as I said, is presence. Like if you are not present with her,

I have, I need to take to the boys and there's risks I have to take with my wife that are going to be vulnerable, right? There's things that maybe, um, uh, I need that I need to express to her or the example I just gave that I've, you know, that there's places where I, I feel afraid right now. Um, the, the whole game for me is, as I said, is presence. Like if you are not present with her,

I have, I need to take to the boys and there's risks I have to take with my wife that are going to be vulnerable, right? There's things that maybe, um, uh, I need that I need to express to her or the example I just gave that I've, you know, that there's places where I, I feel afraid right now. Um, the, the whole game for me is, as I said, is presence. Like if you are not present with her,

then she's not going to be happy. She's not going to feel safe. And so you have to find a way to be discerning, but share enough so that you're present so that she can feel you. She has to be able to feel you. If she can't feel you, she doesn't trust you because you're actually not trustable. if you're not in touch in some way with what you're actually feeling, you're not trustable.

then she's not going to be happy. She's not going to feel safe. And so you have to find a way to be discerning, but share enough so that you're present so that she can feel you. She has to be able to feel you. If she can't feel you, she doesn't trust you because you're actually not trustable. if you're not in touch in some way with what you're actually feeling, you're not trustable.

then she's not going to be happy. She's not going to feel safe. And so you have to find a way to be discerning, but share enough so that you're present so that she can feel you. She has to be able to feel you. If she can't feel you, she doesn't trust you because you're actually not trustable. if you're not in touch in some way with what you're actually feeling, you're not trustable.

And the reason why is if you suppress your emotions or you rationalize them in some way, you're going to act in compensation to those feelings in a way that's not authentic to you, right? And that's gonna create problems for you. So it's really, really important

And the reason why is if you suppress your emotions or you rationalize them in some way, you're going to act in compensation to those feelings in a way that's not authentic to you, right? And that's gonna create problems for you. So it's really, really important

And the reason why is if you suppress your emotions or you rationalize them in some way, you're going to act in compensation to those feelings in a way that's not authentic to you, right? And that's gonna create problems for you. So it's really, really important

that you understand, know without shame what it is that you're feeling and how and when you choose to share that with her is ultimately is up to you.

that you understand, know without shame what it is that you're feeling and how and when you choose to share that with her is ultimately is up to you.