Davonte Green

Were you tense in your shoulders?

Were you forgetting to take that deep breath?

Was your heart rate sped up?

These are all signs that our bodies are sharing with us to let us know that we're in an escalated state.

What story, what narrative are we sharing with ourselves?

Because what we're thinking impacts how we're feeling, and how we feel impacts how we behave.

But if we don't have the language to identify how we're feeling, it can be hard to avoid that behavior that can really shift our lives.

So pay attention.

The next one is to assess.

Assess what's actually activating you.

What is this?

Was it a tone of voice?

Do you feel like you weren't being heard?

What is it that was said, done?

What is it about the environment that is activating you?

You might call it a trigger.

Do you know what your triggers are?

Do you know the environments, the people, the things that activate you?

That's a great place to start.

Because if we know what activates us, maybe we can avoid those life-altering situations.